Post # 1
On these boards, and in life I feel like brides constantly hear about how it is the BRIDE’S special day and she can call all the shots
Is this true for you?
Is it YOUR big day? You are calling all the shots and planning your dream wedding
Or yours and your Fiance’s big day? Planning together, give and take
Or actually… is it your FIANCE’s big day?
Be honest, girls 🙂
Post # 3
@Gabthebee: It was a day for both of us. We planned it together and enjoyed it together. How can it really be a wedding if you are just celebrating yourself?
Post # 4
It’s OUR big day.
We discussed alot of the bigger aspects of the wedding.. where we’d like to get married, the colors, food, theme were all agreed upon.
As for all the smaller stuff [tuxes, dresses, flowers, decor, ect] he didn’t really care.
And we’ve added some things that he really really wanted, like a dj, bon fire, late night snack & cigar bar.
Post # 5
I am very particular. Actually, far more particular with wedding planning than I thought I’d be. I am going out of my way to include FI’s ideas and wants though. It is really important to me that the day is something that will be equally special to both of us.
And let’s get real… it ISNT just my day. He is getting married too.
Although, I supposeif you hae a compliant FI who has no preferences there is nothing wrong with taking the wheel yourself as the bride 🙂
Post # 6
Well, I think in general the ladies care more than the guys about the details.
Neither of us care that much about our upcoming wedding… we just want to be married.
Post # 7
@Gabthebee: It is both of our day. Although I reserve the right to have 2 bridezilla moments. I have yet to use them in 9 months yet. I’m holding on to them for something VERY important!
Post # 8
My FI is involved enough for it to be “our” day, but I think it’s pretty common to feel like the bride is the “queen” of the day and no one should stress her out, etc., but the same type of attention isn’t really given to the groom. It’s probably more important for most brides than it is grooms.
Post # 9
I’ve never uttered the words “this is my big day.” Hasn’t even crossed my mind. It’s not my style whatsoever and I think this day is all about US, not me.
That said, I’ve certainly had moments where I decide to override because I believe I have better taste in mind 🙂
Post # 10
It’s our day but I definitely do most of the planning. I do take into consideration his thoughts and feelings before I make decisions, and of course always run them by him for approval. In the end though it will never be about just me because that’s not the point lol!
Post # 11
It was our day, though my DH wasn’t super into certain details during the planning. Still, I ran everything past him and anything that he didn’t like was thrown out. Afterall, if it weren’t for him the day would not even be happening so how can it only be the bride’s day?
Post # 12
Definitely our day… which is why we have chosen to skip the wedding altogether. It was becoming a day for our family, and not us, and that just wasn’t working. We are going to elope so that we can truly focus on ourselves.
Post # 13
it is neither. the marriage is ours, the wedding however, is our family’s/friend’s. it’s a big party for everyone to meet!
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
It definitely reflected us but it was really his day. It’s my second marriage so I would have preferred to elope but he wanted the wedding. Not to say I didn’t enjoy it and feel like it was about me too but really it was his day.
Post # 16
I have an acquaintance who is getting married shortly before me, and she is always posting things on FB about how it’s so close to “my” wedding. She always says “my” – never “our”. It makes me sad.
While I am doing all the little details, this wedding is definitely OURS. If it was just for me, it would look WAY different. Ultimately I just want to be married.