Is it YOUR day, or yours and your Fiance's Day?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Who's Big Day?
    The Bride/My big day : (16 votes)
    5 %
    Our Big Day : (283 votes)
    93 %
    My Partner's Big Day : (6 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    4042 posts
    Honey bee

    @Gabthebee:  It was a day for both of us. We planned it together and enjoyed it together. How can it really be a wedding if you are just celebrating yourself? 

    Post # 4
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It’s OUR big day.

    We discussed alot of the bigger aspects of the wedding.. where we’d like to get married, the colors, food, theme were all agreed upon.

    As for all the smaller stuff [tuxes, dresses, flowers, decor, ect] he didn’t really care.

    And we’ve added some things that he really really wanted, like a dj, bon fire, late night snack & cigar bar.

    Post # 6
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Well, I think in general the ladies care more than the guys about the details.

    Neither of us care that much about our upcoming wedding… we just want to be married.

    Post # 7
    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Gabthebee:  It is both of our day.  Although I reserve the right to have 2 bridezilla moments.  I have yet to use them in 9 months yet.   I’m holding on to them for something VERY important!

    Post # 8
    6812 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My FI is involved enough for it to be “our” day, but I think it’s pretty common to feel like the bride is the “queen” of the day and no one should stress her out, etc., but the same type of attention isn’t really given to the groom. It’s probably more important for most brides than it is grooms.

    Post # 9
    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’ve never uttered the words “this is my big day.”  Hasn’t even crossed my mind. It’s not my style whatsoever and I think this day is all about US, not me.

     That said, I’ve certainly had moments where I decide to override because I believe I have better taste in mind 🙂  


    Post # 10
    2136 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    It’s our day but I definitely do most of the planning. I do take into consideration his thoughts and feelings before I make decisions, and of course always run them by him for approval. In the end though it will never be about just me because that’s not the point lol!

    Post # 11
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It was our day, though my DH wasn’t super into certain details during the planning. Still, I ran everything past him and anything that he didn’t like was thrown out. Afterall, if it weren’t for him the day would not even be happening so how can it only be the bride’s day?

    Post # 12
    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Definitely our day… which is why we have chosen to skip the wedding altogether. It was becoming a day for our family, and not us, and that just wasn’t working. We are going to elope so that we can truly focus on ourselves.

    Post # 13
    809 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    it is neither. the marriage is ours, the wedding however, is our family’s/friend’s. it’s a big party for everyone to meet!

    Post # 14
    2694 posts
    Sugar bee

    It was my MIL’s day! 

    Post # 15
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    It definitely reflected us but it was really his day. It’s my second marriage so I would have preferred to elope but he wanted the wedding. Not to say I didn’t enjoy it and feel like it was about me too but really it was his day.

    Post # 16
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I have an acquaintance who is getting married shortly before me, and she is always posting things on FB about how it’s so close to “my” wedding. She always says “my” – never “our”. It makes me sad.

    While I am doing all the little details, this wedding is definitely OURS. If it was just for me, it would look WAY different. Ultimately I just want to be married.

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