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Photographer, set...Venue...Set...details set...Groom........Gone
I am not sure how to go about saying this, and it hurts to say this...But I am not getting married anymore.
He was cheating, then put his hands on me. That was the final straw.
Just so you all know I am still here to look around and suggest. I am not going anywhere
I'm so very sorry to hear...and I'm sending many good thoughts your way on your journey toward healing your heart.
I'm sorry to hear that. I will pray that you find the strength to gather yourself up from this situation. I hope you have a close circle of people that you can count on to comfort you.
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I am so sorry to hear this. I doubt there is any silver linings now, but if there is one, it is that you avoided a life with a man who would cheat on you and hurt you. That is a blessing. I wish you strength and love during this hard time. And after you get through the worst, hope that you find someone worthy of your love and commitment.
I'm so sorry! What a nightmare. Unfortunately, the answer to your question is "sometimes," but only for a short time. I promise, happiness will come again eventually (although I know it's hard to hear that right now). Do you have friends/family/etc. to lean on and help you through this? **hugs**
This is a message (and image) I've found helpful in the past:
"Then, when it seems we will never smile again, life comes back."
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thanks so much. I always thought he was the one, but I guess once the rings on the gloves come off huh?
Thanks for everything ladies and have a healthy happy marriage or time planning
Serenity
Serenity- I'm so sorry to hear this. You are totally doing what is best for you, but it takes a strong woman to stand up for herself. I really respect you for making that decision. I'll be keeping good thoughts for you as you move on to bigger and better things.
Serenity - first off, ((((hugs)))). second, I'll tell you what my mom told me when me the ex cheated and lied to me - just be glad you found out before you got married and had children!! Its so hard but easy to walk away now since you have no strings attached but heart strings. greive for a few days and then throw yourself into what makes you happy and don't look back. Better things are in your future
So sorry. It's so hard right now. I know one day you will look back and be glad this marriage didn't take place. If you've never heard the Martina McBride song, "Wrong Again", check it out. (Hugs.)
I'm so sorry, and I know it's not likely what you want to hear, but it's probably for the best in the long run that you won't be with someone for the rest of your life who would hurt you physically and emotionally like that.
Best wishes.
Thanks for everything. Although the wedding is off I am still going to have everything planned out that is my dream wedding,. that stuff makes me feel better lol I love wedding planning so there goes what i will do to be better :P i know bad huh?
Huggles to all
Serenity
Hugs and so sorry to hear he's "that" kind of guy.
I divorced my x b/c he cheated and he turned out to be anything but the man I believed him to be.
Please count it as a blessing you found out NOW before you moved thru life with him and became a parent with him that he is incapable of honoring either YOU or his marriage and vows.
Give your heart time to heal. We'll be here when Mr. Right comes along and you're welcome here always regardless if the wedding is now or next year or ten years from now. Nothing but love!
I had a little pang of hurt for you just reading your first post- so sorry. Something similar happened to one of my BMs, she was only a month out. I hope you were at least able to get some of your deposits back, even though that is the farthest from the important part.
I won't tell you that two years later she is perfect and happy, but she is much better off and happier than she was before. I hope that, in time, you can make peace with the mistakes he made. Until then: hugs, prayers, and love!
So sorry to hear about this. It is little consolation to read these words, but it's better you found out now before you got married. I hope for your safety, that he knows to stay away from you and that it's over. Stay strong! One day, you will find someone who respects and loves you.
I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. I hope you give yourself some time to heal and move onto bigger and better things in your life!
((((((hugs))))))))
It doesn't feel like it now, but you have been spared a life of pain.
I, like many people, have a heart break story. However, before the pain had even started to ease, someone came into my life that had been trying to be a part of it for a long time. I didn't give him a chance because he was so far away (Iraq) and I didn't know him well enough. But he took my wounded heart and loved me through the most difficult times.
Any person that can do this can love you in the best of times.
I wish you best.
You deserve love and respect. It is coming your way.
Namaste.
HUGS -- I'm so sorry :( Good for you for being strong enough to do what's right for yourself in this situation, you'll be so much better off and happier for it!
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Know that everyone here is sending the most positive vibes out to you and wishing you the best. You are lucky, like Miss Snapdragon said, to have avoided an inevitable heartache further down the road and possibly endangering your children as well. I'm so sorry this happened and I hope you know we all welcome your input and venting around here. Don't feel that you are ever alone.
So sorry.......will keep you in my thoughts. :)
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I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't even imagine what you are going through right now, but I can say that it will get better. I will keep you in my thoughts.
omg, so sorry to hear this! i'm glad to hear though, that you were strong enough to walk away from this, as it would likely only get worse. Any man who puts his hands on a woman doesn't ever deserve her. It's nice to see you will still be sticking around, though! I wish you all the best as you deal with this.
So sad, but... I am proud of you for leaving. Remember that you have many talents, and work on those for a while. The person that you are supposed to share your life with will come along when you are ready. Meantime, lean on the hive and your real life support group.
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I am so sorry to hear that Serenity. It may not feel like it now but it is definitely for the best. I am thankful that he showed his true colors before you got married. Some unfortunate people (like my future MIL) are not introduced to the wicked side of a person until after the wedding which makes everything so much harder. People like him are known to manipulate their significant other, that is why so many abused women feel they cannot leave. So thank God that you can walk away now while you still can.
I know I do not know you but I am so proud of you! You have shown great strength and will power to let him go. It will be tough but the REAL man that is right for you is out there.
Good luck with your new life! We are all here for you!
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I share the same sentiment as almost everyone on this thread. The cliche goes "Whatever will be will be." In a way, life turned out to your advantage because you were spared of the heartaches that would've come if you didn't find out about it after the wedding, not to say that you don't have heartaches now, but at least you didn't have to be married to this man who obviously does not know the true meaning of marriage and love and being in a relationship. Good luck and keep your head up 
Hugs to you Serenity! & Bless you for being so strong, you have made the right decision no matter how hard it seems, things will only get better for you.
Serenity, I am so sorry. I know that time will heal and new love will come to you when you are ready for it. Hang in
{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}
Be strong. You will come out the other side.
Other women who have gone through this have recommended theregoesthebride.com for help, commiseration and advice. Best wishes and best of luck, from all of us.
I just wanted to offer my sympathy and encouragement along with everyone else. You made a really difficult decision to remove yourself from a dangerous and unhappy situation, and I'm proud of you! Keep you chin up, girl; things will get better.
I am so sorry to hear that. I know it's hard right now, but I hope you feel comforted in knowing that your future husband is out there waiting for you to find him! I have several friends who have cancelled their engagement and all of them (yes, ALL) have found amazing boyfriends/fiancees/husbands soon after and they all view their break-ups as a blessing in disguise. You made a hard but wise choice. Best wishes to you.
oooohhh Serenity that is terrible how could he? the other night i had the worst nightmare that my FI was cheating on me and the feeling even though was not true it was horrible i kept questioning him?... bad bad bad! i can not imagine how you feel right now but if you can see the good in this then it was probably better for you to find out before going through with the wedding ... he cant b good for you... you deserve better.............. im sorry you had to go through this!
I am so sorry to learn of this! It must be an incredibly difficult time for you.
@Serenity - It happened to me as well; engaged for 8 months and then, a week before my birthday I was broken up with over work email. I too found Weddingbee so hard to leave b/c of how supportive everyone is. You may have to take a little time off because everyone else's "happy" might hurt. But we're all here for you. Trust me, from experience, this happened for a reason. You absolutely will not see it now, but I learned so much because you are forced to go nowhere but up. I promise you will find the one you are supposed to, when you least expect it. Don't look for the next thing, get yourself back. ((((((hugs))))))
I could never be jealous at all of yalls happyness, I am not sad. I now know he did what he did and found out before the wedding, and yes I got my deposits back..Thank you wedding insurance lol but I know I will be strong enough to overcome. Thank you all for your love and support. I hope you all have great weddings and lives with you FH's and stay happy,
Serenity
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I'm sorry, but I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself and leaving. I'm glad you are getting deposits back, and I hope you use them for something truly fabulous. Congratulations on your new lease on life, and good work on dodging that bullet!
I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's been said, but I promise that you'll be happier in the long run. {{{}}}
As far as handing around here...I've been married for 5 years! :) I'm on here every day!
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