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I am getting married in 5 short weeks- yikes! My MOH is getting married at the end of May - I actually had originally picked her date for myself (I was engaged first), but she really wanted it, so I gave it to her and changed my date to March.

I have asked her many times when her shower/bachelorette would be - I have to fly, so I wanted to be able to plan in advance as far as a flight, etc. She never said anything, even though I directly asked many times when the shower would be (and it turns out, I have heard from others that she has known for months when the shower would be). Then, yesterday, I get an invite in the mail saying the shower is apparently in 3 weeks - 2 weeks before my wedding! I am not necessarily upset about it being so close to my wedding as no one telling me about it.

Also, she still has not decided on her own MOH, and I am fine if it is not me, but I don't like that i think she is avoiding saying who it is until after my wedding so as not to disappoint me or something.

So, am I being crazy? Should I say anything about any of this?

I don't think she's trying to steal your thunder. Maybe she was afraid to tell you her shower date because it's so close to your wedding, and she didn't want to offend you. After all, you gave up your original date choice so she could be married that day.

Perhaps she didn't know the date of her shower. My shower's in April, but the weekend changed so many times, I wasn't sure until last week!

She also may not have chosen her MOH because she could feel she should ask you because she is yours, but isn't sure. I know you say you don't care if you aren't her MOH, but maybe she is afraid you'll be upset.

I'm sure she is just as stressed out as you are. I don't think you're crazy, but I think you might be stressing out more than you need to :)

Well, I do know for sure she's known for at least a month and a half the exact date of the shower (just saw yesterday she posted on other people's Facebook pages about it) and I guess what's frustrating is, she always avoids telling me anything she thinks I may not like, even though there's no reason to be scared - I am always super nice, I am not upset that it is close to my wedding, just wish I would have known earlier so I could clear my schedule for the weekend, book a flight, etc.

So, I am a BM, but the shower was planned by family actually.

And when I originally chose her as MOH, she said "I can't guarantee you'll be mine. So if that's what you want, then it's okay to pick someone else." And I said to her "Absolutely not, you're who I want, I don't need to be yours, it doesn't have to be a reciprocal thing. You should pick whomever you want, I will not be upset at all." So I feel like I don't know what more I can say to stress that I did not pick her so that she could pick me.

I agree with Tayna123- try talking to her.

Even though you're nice when you talk to her normally, she probably knows that weddings bring out the crazyiness!!

Good luck!