Post # 1
I was reading the post where the bride is debating between mani/pedi, jewelry or a towel wrap and the comments are making me wonder if my gift is “enough” or is it really more for the wedding and I’m not really giving the girls a true gift. Here is what I have so far:
1) Tote bag with names embroiders (in wedding colors) – $5 each
2) Gift bag with lotion/bath oil from Bath and Body works (in wedding colors) – $10 each on sale
3) Umbrella (the wedding is in March so weather is iffy and they were the green of our wedding and cute, I couldn’t resist) – $8 each
4) Gold shoes (to wear day of) – $30 each
5) Peridot earrings and necklace set (to wear day of) – $35 each (on sale from $80, they are real)
6) Gold clutch (to use day of) – $20 each
7) Make-up bag – $25 each (they were super cool and from a festival, I plan to put make-up samples in them, like Clinique mascara)
As I read all of this I can’t tell if I’ve spent a lot of money on a great gift or if the bags are “all about me and the wedding”, and not really a present.
My mother has paid for the bridesmaids dresses, so as far as I can tell there is nothing these girls will have to pay for. I’ve been told that they don’t plan to throw a shower. I am NOT requiring professional hair and make-up as one of the girls freaked out when I started to ask if she’d be interested in it (and honestly I would have covered that too).
I do also plan to take them out for brunch or a luncheon the weekend before the wedding, which is when I’ll give out these tote bags. They know I’ve bought shoes, etc. already, so I don’t need to worry about people buying stuff and then gifting them the same thing.
Would love opinions!
Post # 3
Um you rock. Those are gret gifts especially the real peridot earrings. i think everyone can use all that stuff beyond the wedding, anyways =]
Post # 4
Wow, I’d be a very happy bridesmaid!
Post # 5
Wow… they didn’t have to pay for their dresses or anything and they’re not even going to throw you a shower? I think those gifts are great.
Post # 6
Well, even though most of the gifts are you wedding related, they are still pretty practical that they can use them for other occasions. And the fact that they are not even buying their own dresses nor throwing you a shower, I’d say they are VERY lucky BMs!!! I think you are a very generous bride – you’ve done more than enough.
Post # 7
Your gift sounds amazing and thoughtful! You’re awesome!
Post # 8
Everything sounds great! And the best part is that they don’t have to pay for their dress. That alone would make me very happy.
Post # 9
um…can i be your BM?……you’ve gone above and beyond…that’s all very sweet of you and your mother!
Post # 10
Maybe they’ll throw you a surprise shower? I think all the gifts are great. Anything more wouldn’t really be necessary.
Post # 11
wow, i think that your gifts to your BM are awesome…like all the other girls said, it is very sweet of you to do that! i’d love to be your BM..hehe
Post # 12
WOW…I think that is more than enough. While a lot of it is related to the wedding, they didn’t have to pay for anything and a lot of the gifts can be used after the day is over!
Post # 13
I second the idea that not paying for their dresses is gift enough. Everything is incredibly generous and can definitely be used after the wedding. These are some lucky girls!
Post # 14
I third the “dresses are gift enough” front. I mean, sure, give them a gift since you appreciate them standing with you at your wedding (your gifts rock, by the way), but you don’t owe them anything – especially since they aren’t paying for anything.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Wow, what a haul — that’s very generous, and there are some great items in there!
Post # 16
WOW can I be in your wedding?? haha… but seriously…..I hope these girls know how good they’re getting it! I think you have a nice mix of things that from the sounds of it they’ll definitely be able to use again and again after the wedding.