Is my boss flirting?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Is he flirting?
    yes : (33 votes)
    100 %
    no : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Yup, he is flirting with you. In general, I think flirting is fairly harmless.. until you mention that last text he sent you. That crosses a line.

    I would be careful… like try not to drink around him. It’s situations like these where cheating can happen. I would just keep things friendly and cordial and try not to lead him on in any way whatsoever.

    Post # 4
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    3637 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    The lunch I could pass off as getting to know the newest co-worker and a sort of belated “welcome to the team”. And perhaps a new thing he just started. 

    The have a nice flight texts I could pass off as trying to be a good manager (assuming that he did this for everyone else). 

    The sweater was very gentlemanly – until the text message! “I know” is very cool and just, yeah, I know, I’ll get it back later. “I know :)” is far too sweet and intimate and THEN to ask if you thought you’d slept with him?! AND wanting to know if you’d woken up in it?! TOO FAR, that I cannot explain away. 

    That being said I don’t think he’s done anything report worthy. He hasn’t pressured you, he is “just” flirting. I would stop communicating with him outside of work (unless at a group party) and if he makes another move, clearly state that you are uncomfortable and are very happy with your FI. Anything after that is reportable.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Also, make sure your FI knows so that he doesn’t think anything is suspicous if he were to discover what happened through any other means except you telling him.

    Post # 6
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    4216 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yes and I also think taking his sweater and dancing with him could be sending him he wrong message. I would dial it back a bit and socialize only in a very professional way. 

    Post # 8
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    2319 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I thini the last text message took things too far.

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