Post # 1
Hello Bees!! I am loving this site! All the girls are so supportive! So to keep things short my future FI (i hope) has bought my ring, has been holding it for almost a month.. We have been together for over 4 years – living together for 1 year.. I am having trouble lately about how to deal with stress waiting for the ering and the official proposal.. I realised that when i am not around him or when i am keeping busy or having fun i do not think about it but when i am with him i am sad and cant stop thinking about it.. Also i realised that although he proposed without a ring i feel its not official because we havent announced it and i realised that this is the thing that bugs me the most because i want to tell the whole world.. I figured that we will announce it after he proposes with the ring.. But i told him yesterday that the fact that we have not announced it bugs me and that the non ring proposal was not official because he hasnt told his parents or his friends that we are engaged he has only told a friend of his that he is planning on proposing.. Anyway he told me that he will tell them very soon and the proposal is coming very soon.. (I hope the latest during holidays..)
What do you bees think ?? Do you think he is having trouble about proposing because he is not ready to announce it yet?? Are you in similar situations? Would like to hear your stories!
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2015 - country club in Michigan
Holidays are approaching…and so are a ridiculous number of proposals ;). Lots of guys wait until the holidays. So I recommend you wait until January 2nd. If still no proposal, then ask him what’s up.
Post # 3
You don’t need a ring to be engaged, nor do you need an announcement. He asked, you said yes, you’re engaged. Maybe he feels awkward because he considers you already engaged and you’re not seeing eye-to-eye because you’re waiting for the ring to make it “official.” Maybe he doesn’t want to make a big deal of things right before the holidays when so many couples get engaged. Maybe he’s having second thoughts because you’ve been moping over not having a ring, or maybe he can’t afford the ring he wants to give you and he feels ashamed. You’re going to have to ask him.
Post # 4
My husband bought the ring 6 months before he proposed (I didn’t know it though, the whole thing was a surprise)…. he proposed on New Years.
Post # 5
Emm85: I hope so!!! Yes I have set a vague timeline until holidays otherwise i will bring it up..
Horseradish: You think so?? I hadnt thought about it like that.. But is it still considered as a normal engagement since we have not told it to friends and family as something official?? About the ring we went 8 months ago ring shopping but decided we would get a custom made because a close friend of us is a jeweller and he would help him find the right stone at a price within his budget. So we decided together about the ring details so i dont think he would be ashamed that the ring is not what i want or anything related to the ring.. I am mostly concerned about the ering because i feel it will make it more official not specifically in a materialistic way that i want a ring on my finger but more in the sense that i want to feel that we are actually engaged..
wandering_gypsy: That sounds so nice!!! He kept the ring quite a long time.. You are so lucky not to have known that he had the ring!! Do you by any chance what took him so long to propose since he had the ring? Was it a matter of waiting for the right time??