Post # 1
I’ve just recently started to think about colour schemes for our wedding next July. But now I’m having a crisis!
I really love the look in these pictures below:
I particularly love the rich wine red/burgundy up against the black. I’m thinking bridesmaids in black, and FI wants the groomsmen in cream. So I came up with the following four colours to form the basis of the scheme:
FI doesn’t like it at all, and he says it is too feminine. Is it? I really want it to be ‘our’ wedding, not just ‘my’ wedding… so how can I make it more masculine?
Post # 2
Not feminine – romantic. And you have incorporated the dark plum which is masculine. My wedding is romantic colors as well but I threw in navy blue for him.
i love it.
Post # 3
Ya it’s not to feminine, I would think about having the girls in a plum. The black seems a little harsh with your colors. But it looks like it will be beautiful!
Post # 4
Love the middle one and doesn;t look too feminine.
But show you FI some wedding pics you like, different from those ones. Or tell him to go through a couple of magazines/websites (choose something very straight forward and quick for him).
My DH decided to get interested in it half away through the preparations… I managed to change the details on the invitations from red to silver but, even though he loved them, I think he would have liked more input… He just came too late with ideas!
Otherwise, you can always delegate some other tasks to him: like chosing catering, helping with venue… and leave the artistic bits to you
Post # 5
Am I the only one that thinks its super feminine? But I also think thank it depends on how you put it together. Which are your mains and which are your accents? It also depends on what type of items you use for decorations, etc.
Post # 6
It’s perfect! I love the soft peach with the darker burgundy and blackberry shades.
Post # 7
Such a gorgeous colour scheme, LOVE IT. They all go so well together, to me it doesnt look to femine. If your FI thinks it is then maybe just stick to the darker shades for the main decor.
Post # 8
That’s so funny, I’m thinking about almost the exact same color scheme. I just love it!
Post # 9
Ugh, this is so gorgeous it hurts and it’s not something I’ve already seen at a bajillion other weddings. You have great taste!
Post # 10
livhuss: It’s not too feminine. but if your FI doesn’t like it then it’s not the right colour scheme for your wedding. You both need to like it.
Post # 11
Ok – well did you ONLY show FI that very last picture? Because that one is girly cream, pink, pink, black. Most people would find that feminine.
Now if you showed him all the inspiration pictures – that’s a whole different story. I don’t really have advice for that.
But anyway – It’s really hard to translate your vision from your head to someone else’s head. Try to explain to him more what you are thinking. You talk about “rich wine red/burgundy” but the color you picked at the bottom is not rich, wine, or burgundy to me AT ALL. That’s more like a toned down fuscia.
When you just show someone four colors, it’s going to be really hard for them to understand what’s going to be the most prominent in your wedding. Purple was a color in my pallett, but you could barely find it in my wedding. At least not until the reception where ther napkins and chair bows were purple. So when he sees two pinks he might think that everything is going to be pink. And maybe he’s right? How do you plan to do centerpieces so that it’s not too feminine. Show him that it won’t be too pink.
But before you do – step pack a minute and think about what you really want. Because although he probably doesn’t want his wedding to look too girly, two years from now, he’ll never remember what the centerpieces looked like. But if two years from now you still resent him for not letting you have your dream centerpieces…. trust me – almost any man would give you whatever you want to not have to deal with that headache later! 🙂
Post # 12
Those are romantic colors, they look great for fall/winter.
Post # 13
livhuss: I think it’s very romantic. My color scheme is probably 100x worse than yours haha. Luckily, FI said he honestly didn’t care. Whatever would make me happy is what he wanted. I’m having pinks, nudes, champagne, and golds, but I’m also adding quirky elements that I know my FI will love to balance them out.
I’m actually kind of obsessed with the color scheme you have above, haha.
Post # 14
livhuss: That’s basically my colour scheme so I voted no lol
Post # 15
livhuss: If it helps, our color scheme was coral, teal, and grey, which honestly isn’t very “masculine” at all. I pretty much kept the guys completely out of coral and reserved that for my girls, then picked out ties for the guys that were a mix of teal and grey so it wasn’t overpowering. My now husband didn’t really even mind, although if I’d tried to get them coral ties or something he probably would have balked.
I would maybe find a few pictures (if you can) of your bottom color scheme, and some with guys in creme so your FI can actually see how it works together. It might take a little searching, but I think guys need to see things “in action” so to speak, rather than colors on a piece of paper or screen. Hopefully once he can visualize it, he will realize it’s really not “girly” or overly “feminine.”