- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Maybe it’s just other things are stressing me out so this seems to set me off, but you tell me…
A brief history:
So, I am an only child. My mom is MIA, and my dad and I have always had a rocky relationship. He didn’t raise me but now that I am older we are able to be friends. I have felt that since the day I announced my engagement that the only reason for his support was he was going to find some glory in looking like the “good dad” as he often does to salvage his image of a father.
Anyways at the start of my planning he wanted to give me a wedding. After talking to some relatives he decided he felt cofortable with a comparable priced wedding as the ones we learned about. We also discussed that no wedding is exactly the same, eg- the jones did their wedding for 10k, but that’s their wedding so give or take a a couple grand is understandable. He concurred. After he and I booked the reception venue which was about 1500 more than planned he yucked it up at the bar with friends with comments like “welp that’s what happens when you have a gir!l”
For the ceremony, it’s only a couple hundred as it’s in a catholic church.
Now, the grandma that raised me offered to help by paying for the extra vendors- the photography, flowers, DJ etc. NOW my Dad is coming to me wanting some money? He is saying that he understood that him and her were going half on everything. This wasn’t the arrangement, it was that she would pick up everything after he booked the church/venue. It bother me that he would try to put this on my grandma since 1)he’s not a poor man 2)He’s my freaking DAD. If he wanted to offer to throw me a wedding he should only be grateful that a GRANDMA wants to contribute to his funding. Even worse I got a call from the vendor saying his mother was requesting a copy of the receipt. Great now is he appointing her to keep his tallys and go frontline for him? (she’s a mean and overly protective italian mother of one son, my dad)
It’s to the point now where I’m like geez, should I just write him a check myself to pay him off? It’s going to hurt cause I’m in the middle of buying a house and tight on money.