- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
My mom is making me paranoid about our decision to have a daytime wedding. We chose a day wedding because I just wanted to have a casual elopement and Fiance wanted something really elaborate, so this was our compromise.
We personally love the idea. Our ceremony is at 11 a.m. We have our reception space from 12-4. So we were thinking of hors d’ouvres from 12 to 12:30, then bridal party intros, speeches, a plated three-course luncheon at 1:00, cake cutting and first dance, then people can socialize or dance or photobooth or whatever from 2 to 4. I’d also like to have some games set up on the venue lawn. Cornhole or such, ’cause there are people in both our families who are into that.
My mom HATES it. And she’s making me paranoid. She keeps bringing up things like how are we all going to get our hair done that early in the day, and that it’s rude that our guests are expected to fend for themselves for dinner, and no one is going to want to drink or dance in the early afternoon. It’s going to be boring, we’re all going to have to get up too early, etc. etc.
I’ve already researched salons that will come to you at whatever hour of the day to do hair/makeup. I argue that if we had a dinner reception, they’d have to fend for themselves for lunch, so how is that any different? I argue that guests will follow the bride and groom’s lead, so if we have a few drinks and dance a bit, guests will too! But she has a rebuttal for EVERYTHING.
She’s also appalled that instead of having a DJ, we’re having an iPod. Our venue has lots of experience with iPod weddings and they know how to run that sort of thing, and since we’re not going for a heavy party atmosphere, we thought a DJ was just an unnecessary expense. Apparently I’m just doing everything wrong :/
She has been fabulous about every other decision we’ve made about the wedding, but this one thing she has just seized hold of and won’t let go. I hear about it EVERY time I see her. Last time we were at her house, she actually started in on Fiance about it. He told her it was his idea, which kind of shut her up for a minute. I think she was hoping it was something I’d bullied him into and not something he really wanted to do so she could have an ally to back her up. But now I’m just nervous as hell about it and she’s got me thinking this whole wedding is going to be an epic failure.
We like the idea of our day wedding because neither of us are really party people and we don’t really like the idea of a wedding and reception that goes on for several hours and late into the night. We were thinking of getting a party bus later in the evening and taking whoever of the over-21 crowd wants to participate downtown for bar-hopping. So after the reception ends at 4 (I’m actually hoping people WILL leave early so it can be over earlier, haha!) we can go back to the hotel, have a little nap and some alone time, a private dinner together, then head out to party for a bit but not be out too late. We love this idea.
My mom just keeps coming back to how rude and inconsiderate all of this is for the wedding party and the guests and how bored everyone is going to be. We’re not changing our plan, because we love it and it works for us. I’d just like some reassurance, please, bees! Tell me we’re not crazy for having a daytime wedding.