Post # 1
Ok Ladies, I need help. I posted in the “Dress” section about my dress and I don’t know if you all read the posts there, but I thought I’d see if anyone else could help.
I’m feeling a little insecure about my dress choice. Or about how I look in it. I don’t really know. I just feel like I look frumpy. My wedding isn’t until June, so I have some time to tone my arms and back, I just feel like that’s not enough.
Some people have mentioned that this dress is a fall-back for big girls. I honestly had my eyes on another dress, then I looked at the catalogue and fell in love with this one. I’m getting married on the ocean and I wanted something that made me look soft and also something that was fairly simple.
I can’t figure out if my insecurities are legit or if I’m worrying too much. I’ve been recovering from an eating disorder for years and the last piece to fall into place is usually body image. I heavier than I want to be, but I’ve had a handful of medical problems resulting from not treating my body well, so this may just be the price I pay.
I just want to feel beautiful on my wedding day. I didn’t want to have dress regret and I’m not sure my insecurities are really about the dress or my body. Perhaps I’m just nervous. Can anyone offer some insight? I don’t want to look like I’ve settled for a wedding dress just because it fits. It’s not easy to be a curvy girl while looking for a dress, and I just want to know if I made the right choice. Please be honest with me.
On a side note, I need a good bra with this dress and I may need to adjust how high I’m wearing it, if that makes sense. DB didn’t think I needed alterations but I’m willing to go there if need be. I was hoping to avoid straps, but if I look frumpy without them, I’ll reconsider.
Thank you so much!
To other ladies with this dress: Have you ever seen the neckline changed to a sweetheart? I’m curious what that would do but I can’t really visualize it.
Post # 3
Absolutely not! I think the dress is beautiful and looks great on you!!
Post # 4
@modernriot: That’s a flattering silouette, lovely!
Post # 5
The dress looks wonderful on you! And actually, there are a TON of bees in the hive that have this dress! I even tried it on, although it didn’t make the final cut, it’s very beautiful!
Post # 6
@modernriot: The sillouhette is fine, you need a veil and a necklace and maybe to alter the neckline so it’s less straight. Your body doesn’t look large though. Editing to add: after seeing the post above mine of her in the dress I think it needs to be tightened in the bodice it seems to be rounding on the side like it’s not fitted properly.
Post # 7
@lovelynners: Maybe that’s what’s weird! It does round out and I do have a well-endowed chest (38DD) so I thought it was just a bra fit thing. I see what you mean and I’ll check it out. Thank you!
Post # 8
I’m not a fan of that on your figure to be honest.
Post # 9
I think it looks great!! I agree with the others..you need a veil. Im wearing the same dress but mine is longer
Post # 10
@modernriot: You absolutely do not look frumpy. At all. I think the band at the waist gives you a nice figure. I am pretty much always a fan of sweetheart, so I think that might look nice, but that’s just a personal preference. Furthermore, I think this dress is perfect for a beach wedding. It’s soft and flowy and not too over-the-top. You’re gonna look awesome!
Post # 11
@modernriot: You look absolutely beautiful in this dress! Dead honest, you look neither frumpy nor huge! I would say NO to the straps and NO to the capped sleeves — THAT to me would look frumpy!! I think you look like a stunning bride as is. I agree that if you add a sash, or a brooch, and a necklace, this dress will instantly come alive!
Post # 12
Nope- you are definitely not frumpy! I have seen many straight necklines turned into a sweet heart. I think that would be a great idea for your dress. It would add an extra femine touch.
Definitely not a fall back or safe dress for “big girls” I think it is a very flattering dress for many different shapes. Emprie waists are super flattering and elegant.
Post # 13
@modernriot: I think it looks great and is not frumpy. If Iwasn’t truthful, I wouldn’t even bother to say anything.
Post # 14
@modernriot: I actually think that dress is quite flattering on you =) What about altering the neckline to more of a sweetheart? I think it would flatter your chest more, I’m a 38D and I found Sweetheart necklines were way more flattering to my bust then the straight across.
Also you could look at having the back switched to a corset, it would support the girls more and define your waist a little more while still keeping the bottom flowy…
Post # 15
I think your dress looks really pretty! Add a few accessories and then you’re good to go! 🙂
Post # 16
@modernriot: I don’t think you look frumpy. Your dress was my runner up dress, and even now 1.5 years after our wedding I still wonder if I made the right choice. I loved the flowy-ness of your dress.