Post # 1
So I’ve never posted on the boards before, but I am a little worried about the dress I bought and need to get some unbiased feedback.
Four months ago, my fiance’s brother got married and his wife wore a beautiful ivory taffeta ballgown. I don’t know for sure, but I think it might have been Mori Lee 4524. She didn’t have a beaded belt and instead had a light gold or champagne satin sash/belt.
Then, in December, we got engaged. We had been waiting, in part, until after their wedding so we didn’t steal any of their thunder. For a variety of reasons, we have decided to get married in April with a party to celebrate this summer.
After two long days of dress shopping (I am not a shopper), I found a dress that I didn’t want to take off. So I bought it. The dress I bought is David’s Bridal WG3243 in white.
I am planning on chopping the train off and wearing a royal blue sash. After I bought the dress, however, I came home, saw one of their wedding pictures, and noticed that the neckline and bodice, that I love, are similar to the the neckline and bodice on my FSIL’s dress. Not only that, but both dresses are taffeta and very simple and have no beading or lace whatsoever. The waistlines and silhouettes are distinct, I think, but now I am wondering if it is too similar to her dress.
If you wore a dress like hers would you be offended if your Future Sister-In-Law wore a dress like mine? How similar is too similar?
Post # 3
@cherrylicious: I don’t think it’s that similar! I think most people wouldn’t notice, and I think, even with my discerning girl eyes, I wouldn’t notice unless it was the same exact dress and styled the same.
Post # 4
I don’t think that they are all that similar, and no one at your wedding is going to be saying “Oh my gosh, she’s wearing the same dress that her SIL wore so many months ago”. Your waistline is different and your skirt looks a lot fuller than hers was.
Post # 5
Oh no, very different dresses, both beautiful but defo noticeablily different
Post # 6
Not at all too similar. She should be thrilled you picked a dress you like!
Post # 7
I think a a lot of dresses look the same, but if you are questioning it- so may she. There are lots of posts of SILs, friends etc “copying” such and such about weddings so just be aware that she may think this of you.
It may be best to hedge your bets and tell your SIL your story. That you found the dress you love after all this shopping but came home and realized it has some similarities, but its not the same dress. Ask her if she would be upset if you wore it. Emphasize that you are not trying to copy at all.
Post # 8
@lefeymw: Exactly what I was going to say!
Post # 9
Do not open that link. He is a troll, and is going to be blocked shortly!
Post # 10
DO NOT open yoaglo’s link potential virus.
Post # 11
I think they have a similar feel to them but are essentially different. I would to your Future Sister-In-Law about it though, just to be sure. Unless she’s crazy, she’ll hopefully be understanding. Also, I think that pop of color you want to add will really make the dress different.
Post # 12
I think they’re quite different dresses – hers is a very full ballgown whereas yours is more of an a-line cut. I think the only similarities really (just upon looking at it in the pictures briefly) is a sweetheart neckline and a bit of ruching….which are two thing that about 90% of dresses out there now have.
Also, your weddings are going to be several months apart and I’d be willing to bet no one is going to remember what her dress looked like anyway.
As a courtesy you can run it by your Future Sister-In-Law but I don’t think it’s necessary – they’re not that similar and will look completely different on you both….unless of course you look bizarrely similar and are doing the same hair/makeup/accessories! 🙂
Post # 13
Thanks bees. When I first noticed the similarities I didn’t think they were too similar either, but I got a little freaked when Future Mother-In-Law said it reminded her of FSIL’s dress. But logically, I think you all are right (and I was right before) and the dresses are distinctly different.
Post # 14
Bah, they are different styles. Wear what you love x
Post # 15
I see a sweetheart neck and ruching that are similar, but SOOOO many dresses have those features that she should have a tough time saying you copied her.