Post # 1
Heyy, So my FH and I just got engaged last month, me being 19 and him being 27. And I was so ecstatic, but when I went to show it off to a friend of my mom’s, all she could say was ‘For your anniversary, ask for a bigger diamond.’. My engagement ring is a .91 ct princess cut solitaire, and so once she said that.. I started trolling wedding sites and found SO many women with like.. over 1 ct engagement rings, the average I found was like 1.5-5 cts and I started feeling kind of bad about mine. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love it and I love my fiance more than anything.. But I just want to be proud of it and have people think it’s really nice, you know? I think that a lot of the ct weight is actually underneath the ring.. So on top it looks quite a bit smaller. But what do all of you think? Opinions please!
Also would love to hear from other women with small-ish engagement rings, pictures would be appreciated. Thanks!
Post # 3
If you love it, that is all that matters. I would try not to worry about. What other people think shouldn’t matter.
Post # 4
What the HELL is wrong with that woman, WHO would say that?? Honestly, she’s just stupid. There’s nothing wrong with a .91 carat diamond, I think most people are lucky to get a carat, and it’s quite normal to get below that. It all depends on the quality of the diamond too, not just the size… wow I would have loved to come up with a smartass remark after a comment like that, I wish I could think fast, that was just rude. Don’t feel down on your ring, everyone has different tastes and opinions, can’t please everyone. Besides, personally, I would feel uncomfortable wearing something SO expensive on my finger!!
Post # 5
ps – Congratulations on the engagement!!
Post # 6
If you really love something, wouldn’t you be proud of it? To say otherwise is kind of a paradox.
It makes me so sad to see so many brides come on WB asking if their ring is “good enough”. Do not ever let someone else make you inferior. It sounds like you loved your ring before your friend’s (rude) mom made a comment she had no place to make. Don’t try to convince yourself that you don’t like your ring just because someone else acted high and mighty about its size. It isn’t about her preferences, it is about yours.
My center stone is approx 1 carat (little less), and I know there are lots of people with bigger ones, but my FH designed it FOR me, which makes it special. We are young adults so it fit into our budget, and the ring itself suits me.
In wedding planning, you will find that there is **ALWAYS** someone who can afford more than you and have more lavish things than you. Do not be consumed by material wants or you will never be happy, because somebody else will ALWAYS be able to outdo you. Be thankful for what you have and be true to what makes YOU happy.
Post # 7
First of all, anyone who says that to you is rude, has no manners, and most likely enjoys putting people down.
Second, your ring sounds beautiful! .91 is a substantial size. There are many girls out there who are thrilled with a .5 ct.
Third, IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT ANYONE THINKS EXCEPT YOURSELF AND YOUR FI. Don’t compare your ring to others.
Congratulations on the engagement!
Post # 8
Congrats on getting engaged. That woman is incredibly rude. I think that you and your FI should make a decision what you can afford (whether it is .5 or 20 carats) and make sure that you can really afford it. Getting an engagement ring is about the feelings and the meaning of the ring itself, not how big it is.
Post # 9
No, your ring is not too small. That is really rude of that lady to say something like that. Congrats on your engagement and Welcome to weddingbee!
Post # 10
That is horribly rude of that woman to say anything.
As many others have posted, .91 is actually not that small. My diamond is not much larger than yours and I love it because it was DH’s mother’s first ring. His parents are still happily married and I appreciate the sentiment of the ring. The size, cut, etc. don’t matter as much as that it came from a happy home.
The ring should be whatever you and your fiance like and can afford.
Post # 11
Okay…the average is NOWHERE near 5 carats, not even in a place where large stone are popular, like LA or NYC. 5 carats is a monster of a stone! Your ring is almost 1 carat and that is more than a lot of women, but really, who cares?! Did you love it before your friend’s mom’s incredibly rude comment? Do you adore the love and commitment it symbolizes? Then that’s what matters. Rejoice, because I’m sure your ring is gorgeous and perfect for you two as a couple, and .91 carats is NOT at all small.
Post # 12
I asked my DH if he was ever planning on “upgrading” his band or if he was planning on “upgrading” my wedding set. He said HELL NO because the rings we have are special! They’ve been through “Popping the question” and our engagement shoot, our wedding ceremony and a special blessing! The rings we have are special to US and it doesn’t matter if anyone else thinks that they “should” be something else. It’s not up to them to decide anyway! It’s not about the size, it’s about the thought behind the ring and if it is special to you.
Also, what kind of cut stone do you have? You mentioned that a lot of the carat weight is under the face of the stone, which is true for some cuts and can make them look smaller. (Still doesn’t mean that old bat should have said ANYTHING besides “What a gorgeous ring!”)
Post # 13
Thank you all for your comments. And yes, I do love the ring he got me and would have been perfectly happy with something that had no diamond at all quite honestly.. We have been dating for 2 1/2 years and had been talking about getting engaged about 6 months before we actually did… In that time, I actually wore a tied string around the ring finger of my left hand as symbolism… I called it my ‘engagement string’ so I am not materialistic at all, that woman’s comment just really put me off and I talked to my FH about it because we talk about everything.. We came to the conclusion that maybe I can get the diamond put into a setting with more bling and have the plain setting of my solitaire made into my wedding band if I wanted. What do you think?
Ps. I know the average isn’t 5 cts, I totally messed up on that, I meant 2 cts, sorry!
Post # 14
Congratulations on your engagment.
That is incredibly rude. My centre stone clocks in at .75 carats, and as two working professionals came in at 1/3 of the budget we had established before we went shopping. It turned out I preferred a more intricate setting compared to a larger solitaire, and for me, an intricate setting AND a large stone was a lot going on for one small hand.
It’s completely a matter of taste, and it’s nobody else’s place to talk about whether your ring is “good enough”.
Post # 15
My ring is 0.6 carat and just the right size for my hand. Both of our mother’s have a third of a carat, so mine is a big step up.
Plus, size isn’t the only aspect of a good diamond. Remember the 4 C’s play just as big a part if not more.
Post # 16
first, CONGRATS 🙂
second, that woman is a horrid person to say something like that to you – did SHE buy it? is he ask HER to marry your FH? no! so what business is it of hers!?
personally i would have told that heifer to stuff it.
no one should EVER make you feel bad about your ring. it does NOT matter what size it is. what matters is the man that you love wants to spend the rest of his life with you – and it shouldnt matter if he gave you a piece of string or a 10 carat canary diamond.
he gave it to you as a promise of a future life, and dont ever feel you have to apologize or upgrade that moment.
cherish your ring. i know many a women who have much smaller rings than yours, and they could care less. why? because its not about the rock on your finger but about your marriage.
seriously tell that old heifer to stuff it.
*stepping off soapbox* that makes me so angry that she did that. people can be so rude and just … UGH.