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And no X number of seats reserved in your honor? That sucks.
Tough...I think it is ridiculous to NOT invite your FI, but you never know. I think you have two options:
1. RSVP assuming you are the only one invited
2. RSVP and put his name in there with yours and deal with the situation of him not being invited if it arises
However, if my FI wasn't invited, I would probably RSVP a "No". The only way to know for sure at this point is to ask!
If it says your name and guest, then he is invited. The return card asks if you have a guest, so I would say its okay.
I wont go if he is not invited...the wedding is in Ohio and i am in South Carolina...
I would call just to double check...just ask if they are inviting your fiance or not, and say you were confused by the wording on the invitation.
If it just says you and no "and Guest" then JUST you were invited and it would not be right of you to add him without atleast calling the bride to check it out.
If it just says your name on the envelope, you are the only one invited. The card you are showing is a generic card that was sent to everyone. If you are really close to the bride and/or groom, I would call to double check, if they know you are in a serious relationship, but as it looks, you are to only one invited because your name was the only one listed on the envelope.
i dont know the bride and groom that well...but they know i am engaged because they both sent me texts saying congrats on my engagement over 2 months ago..so i guess im not going either then!
I know the names on the envelope should tell you who is/isn't invited, and you shouldn't add a plus one that you weren't given. HOWEVER, I don't think fiances and spouses are "plus ones"--they are part of the package. I'd actually assume it was dumb addressing rather than excluding a necessary invitee. And I'm sure some people will think otherwise, which is why calling and asking is probably safest.
So technically, since only your name was on the envelope, then you should assume that you're the only one invited. However, it seems crazy that they wouldn't have invited your fiance, so I would call your friend and ask, before you return the reply card.
since the couple knows you are engaged (for two month now) and your envelope was only addressed to you not to you and him or you and guest I would assume that he is not invited.
You could always call and ask....
I agree that it's probably only you invited. But call to ask because if you decline because you THINK he's not invited and they've saved space for him then you're missing out.
How close are you to these people? Could it be they're having a very small wedding?
We have one instance we're not putting "& guest" on the invite but we're putting double the number of people on the RSVP card so they'll know they can bring someone.
Maybe when they originally made the guestlist, you weren't engaged, so they weren't planning on a required "guest" for you. I'm sure they wouldn't mean to exclude the FI, but unfortunately the wording makes it seem that way. I would call...
If I were in your situation I would either decline or put down FI's name. I avoid confrontation at all costs, though.
Just call/email and find out. If they say no, then you can decide if you want to go; if yes, then no big deal. No point in making an issue otherwise until you find out. It could have been an oversight - maybe someone helped with addressing the envelopes and the couple forgot to include your FI's name. But that the rsvp card says guest(s) - that allows for another person (rather than just guest).
Again, gripping before you find out the deal is silly. Call!
I'd call or send a light e-mail to double check. They could've made the guest list before you got engaged, and be printing off of that. Or it could be a case where mom or a bridesmaid is doing the addressing. Before missing an event, I'd make sure it wasn't an oversight. Don't pressure them, but say something like "just got your invitation - what beautiful paper/caligraphy/letterpress! One quick thing, the envelope was just addressed to me, so the invite isn't for FI too, right?" That way, she can say "yes that's right!" instead of feeling like she's backed into a corner and have to say "no, actually we couldn't invite +1s" or whatever.
If the inviter knew you were engaged and didn't put his name on the invite - then assume he wasn't invited. BUT if the inviter is not that close to you or FI, then call and ask if he was meant to be invited - or not. RSVP accordingly based on their answers without judging.
call and check--a friend of mine was MORTIFIED when she found out her FI addressed the envelopes for her. He only included one person on the envelope because he assumed everybody knew their SO was invited. I had one friend call me, freaking out about if her FI was invited and said, Yeah, W made a msitake
Call and check very casual-like
While it only says your name on the envelope, it would be ridiculous to think that your fiance isn't invited. Perhaps they don't know that you are engaged. You should ask them about it. If he's not invited, personally I would decline because I think it's inappropriate.
If the envelope is only addressed to you, but the inner envelope includes your name and guest. Yes, he is invited--or a guest of your choice. If the inner envelope simply includes your name, then he is not invited. If there is no inner envelope and the invitation is simply addressed to you, then no he is not invited. The reply card is simply made that way for ANYONE who recieves an invitation (they aren't going to print seperate response cards to all guests)
M (you fill in (r) for Mr. or (s) for Ms. or (rs) for Mrs. or (r) Mr. and Mrs. ___)
__ (fill in the number of guests attending--of course depends on how many were invited on the envelope) if just you...then 1.
or check will not attend.
Hope this helps!
i'd call or email to ask too. we screwed up some of our envelope wordings and had to make a lot of calls informing everyone that yes, their kids were invited as well. mistakes happen!
I would send an email. While it's common knowledge to us that any plus one is address on the envelope, I just received an invite last week that only had my name, but my FH is invited as well. Some brides don't have the awesome source of knowledge of weddingbee - she probably didn't even think about your situation!
FYI: The reason I was only listed on the invite was bc my FH and I don't live together...so she thought it was silly to put both of us on the invite. oi!
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OK ladies...i just got an invitation that im not sure if they are inviting my fiance or not...the invitation is only addressed to me...and on the RSVP card it says:
M__________________________________________________
____ guest(s) will attend
____ will not attend.
yes or no?