(Closed) Is my fiance invited to this wedding? (not sure by the invitation…help!)

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is FI invited?
    Yes : (13 votes)
    28 %
    No : (33 votes)
    72 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    And no X number of seats reserved in your honor?  That sucks.

    Tough…I think it is ridiculous to NOT invite your FI, but you never know.  I think you have two options:

    1. RSVP assuming you are the only one invited

    2. RSVP and put his name in there with yours and deal with the situation of him not being invited if it arises

    However, if my FI wasn’t invited, I would probably RSVP a “No”.  The only way to know for sure at this point is to ask!

    Post # 4
    Member
    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    If it says your name and guest, then he is invited.  The return card asks if you have a guest, so I would say its okay.

    Post # 6
    Member
    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I would call just to double check…just ask if they are inviting your fiance or not, and say you were confused by the wording on the invitation.

    Post # 8
    Member
    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If it just says you and no “and Guest” then JUST you were invited and it would not be right of you to add him without atleast calling the bride to check it out.

    Post # 9
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    8354 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    If it just says your name on the envelope, you are the only one invited. The card you are showing is a generic card that was sent to everyone. If you are really close to the bride and/or groom, I would call to double check, if they know you are in a serious relationship, but as it looks, you are to only one invited because your name was the only one listed on the envelope.

    Post # 11
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    7175 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Since it was just your name, I’d say just you were invited.

    Post # 12
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    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Call them….and ask. That is my advice.

    Post # 13
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I know the names on the envelope should tell you who is/isn’t invited, and you shouldn’t add a plus one that you weren’t given. HOWEVER, I don’t think fiances and spouses are “plus ones”–they are part of the package. I’d actually assume it was dumb addressing rather than excluding a necessary invitee. And I’m sure some people will think otherwise, which is why calling and asking is probably safest.

    Post # 14
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    So technically, since only your name was on the envelope, then you should assume that you’re the only one invited.  However, it seems crazy that they wouldn’t have invited your fiance, so I would call your friend and ask, before you return the reply card.

    Post # 15
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    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    since the couple knows you are engaged (for two month now) and your envelope was only addressed to you not to you and him or you and guest I would assume that he is not invited.

    You could always call and ask….

    Post # 16
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I agree that it’s probably only you invited. But call to ask because if you decline because you THINK he’s not invited and they’ve saved space for him then you’re missing out.

    How close are you to these people? Could it be they’re having a very small wedding?

    We have one instance we’re not putting “& guest” on the invite but we’re putting double the number of people on the RSVP card so they’ll know they can bring someone.

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