(Closed) Is my FSIL Jealous or what? (vent…. need advice…)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If your mother in law literally has to hire a mediator over a disagreement, there is a lot more going on than jealousy. Like, complicated, lifelong issues that can’t possibly be analyzed by strangers online with only one side of the story…

Yikes, good luck!!! At least it sounds like your MIL is supportive?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

What does your FH say about all of this? If anyone, sibling or stranger, ever suggested those things, my husband wouldn’t tolerate it… It’s so completely disrespectful. If this were happening to me, I would have HIM tell her that her comments would not be tolerated. I’m sorry 🙁

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sounds more insane than jealous!  I’d just ignore her and go about being your nice self, but not taking any crap from her.  Let her yell and be psycho all she wants.. sooner or later people will get sick of dealing with her.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

It sounds like she’s unstable, and at this point trying to be rational with someone acting this irrational is nearly pointless.

I’m sorry she’s causing you so much stress and adding a ridiculous burden to your big day. Weddings sometimes bring out the absolute worst in people!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wow she is so drama. If her problem is she doesn’t want to come to the wedding.  Actually is she still a bridesmaid?  You can probably say to her that things are getting out of hand, she is causing too much drama and stress and that it would be a good idea for you to pick someone else as a bridesmaid because of her yelling and her behavior in general. Don’t tolerate her crap.  She’s such an attention whore….trying to cause all this drama. Oh yeah if she is saying all these means calling you a gold digger and not supporting your marriage, she shouldn’t be a part of the bridal party.  She really seems ungrateful!!

Post # 11
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2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

She wouldn’t be getting an invitation if it were me….

Post # 12
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m so glad you kicked her out!!! She needs to be signed up for an anger management class.  I guess the best thing to do is stay away from her for now and see if she cools over.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ideas? No Ideas needed. I would have made the biggest scene. No one would even think of disrespecting me like this and she would not even be in my wedding after all that. And ur FI needs to put her in her place. She wants attention and wants to ruin your day and it is working. She needs to be ignored.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ignor her. And I don’t mean just let it go, I mean when she starts yelling and screaming, litterally play like you’re not paying attention or even care. I know that what ever she says is painful, but it sounds to me that she just gets off on making everyone misserable. Take away her power over the situation. This might open a chance for you to also get some peace if she decides to be passive aggresive. I know, this is not what you want, but it could buy you enough time to consider another way to approuch the problem. This is only a temporary thing.

 

Also, I agree, this has to be related to some long time issues if your FMIL is stepping out of the situation when it is her daughter. You and/or FI need to talk to her again and try to bring her back into it. This isn’t just going to go away and it’s going to take a lot of work from all parties.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

She’s not jealous — she’s crazy.  I would definitely not have her in the wedding party, and probably would not invite her as a guest. If the family doesn’t like it, that’s too bad.  It’s not worth the effort to deal with someone who is totally irrational.

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