Post # 1
I received a FB invite to a wedding (it’s not as ‘bad’ as it seems – she’s planning the wedding from out of the country). The invite was to me (DH isn’t on FB) and she knows I got married, but hasn’t met Darling Husband.
That said – do you think I can just bring him and assume he’s invited? Or is this the case of: assume nothing and ask?
What do you think?
Post # 3
@oracle: I would say assume nothing and ask. He “should” be invited, but that doesn’t mean he is.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
He’s invited. But in case she’s got her head on backwards and isn’t inviting spouses, maybe you can ask so she’s not surprised.
Post # 5
@KatNYC2011: was leaning towards the ‘assume nothing’ camp. I’ll send her a FB message and see what she says.
Post # 6
I would definitely ask. I sent invitations out just yesterday so nobody’s gotten them yet, but a friend who lives across the country that I didn’t really think would come is trying to make it and told me today “I might make my sister my plus one to make the trip cheaper,” and I had to very awkwardly inform her that as she hadn’t really mentioned being able to come at all, and also doesn’t have a boyfriend, I hadn’t given her a plus one. AND I FELT SO BAD!! But there’s people we had to cut off our list, you know, and I can’t just go giving a seat to her sister I had never met! I was going to seat her at a table with a bunch of our mutual friends so she’d be totally comfortable, and she had never mentioned bringing anyone let alone even being able to COME until yesterday and ugh I felt bad but I mean… I do not KNOW HER SISTER!
So, long story short, just ask, because she’ll appreciate that you didn’t just assume even if your husband IS invited and she just neglected to mention it. It looks thoughtful and polite to ask rather than just assume.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t assume he’s invited. Ask her. If she says no, then I wouldn’t go either.
Post # 8
i voted other, i would always politely ask because you dont want to guess and get it wrong
Post # 9
UPDATE: I asked and the response was: “Sure! It will be great to meet him.”