Is my menu cheap? Thoughts please.

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do you think I should do with my menu? (please read first)
    Change to just chicken for everyone & use the $ towards something else : (112 votes)
    50 %
    Keep the grouper & just chicken option : (98 votes)
    44 %
    Add the beef option & cut 50 people from guest list : (14 votes)
    6 %
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    318 posts
    Helper bee

    Um, no definitely not cheap.  A lot of brides would kill to have a menu like this.

    1987 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think grouper and chicken is great, I think just chicken is also fine.  I assume there’s also a vegetarian option available even if it’s not publicized.

    I think your FMIL is ridiculous.  I’ve been to plenty of weddings without a beef option – do people really need beef every time they eat a meal?  No.  Sounds like if she wants that upgrade so bad she can pay for it.

    One thing you don’t mention is any kind of vegetable – is there a salad or are veggies served as a side dish?

    10364 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    Not cheap. Kind of over the top, honestly.

    If you have SEVEN appetizers, will people even be able to eat dinner? And if you are serving grouper as a main course, why have that as one of the passed apps?

    I think what you need is a vegetarian option, not a beef/fish option, honestly. There’s basically nothing for a vegetarian to eat.

    1302 posts
    Bumble bee

    I feel like I am in a similar situation to yours. We only have a chicken, fish (salmon), and a vegetarian option at our wedding. We also decided not to upgrade to inclusde the beef option because it would have brought up the price $15 more per person. I am also having a choice of 8 passed Hors D’Ouevres, an open bar all night, champagne toast and wine pour with dinner. I think that makes up for not having a beef option. I would much rather be at a wedding with an open bar.

    I justified not having a beef option by telling myself food was not a top priority – I don’t remeber what I had to eat at most of the weddings I have been to! The food is not what your guests will remember about your wedding!

    2837 posts
    Sugar bee

    @crayfish:  Ditto. You have enough appetizers for me to not want dinner…

    686 posts
    Busy bee

    I would go with just the chicken if I were you since it would significantly reduce the costs. I think it’s okay to not have beef as an option.

    2298 posts
    Buzzing bee

    This looks fantastic. I personally as a guest wouldn’t mind a chicken-only option, but I do know some people who cannot eat chicken (I actually know two, I was really surprised but it’s a real thing, not crazy people).

    I definitely do not think you need to add beef. I would NEVER cut 50 people (or even 5 people) to add an extra meal option.

    1105 posts
    Bumble bee

    Definitely not cheap. However, it is extremely seafood heavy. I realize you are in Miami, but lots of people are scared of seafood (particularly if you have people flying in from other parts of the country). Personally I would be thrilled with this menu because I am a seafood lover, but I would consider switching some of the hors d’oeuvres for some non-seafood options (and make the first course a salad) in the interest of crowd pleasing. If someone is a vegetarian or was allergic to shellfish, they won’t be able to eat anything.

    5922 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would be totally happy with that, but I would keep the grouper. Is there a vegetarian option? If so maybe you could have that listed on the menu and then cut the fish.

    2932 posts
    Sugar bee

    Umm no that is a silly thing to say. Your menu looks delish. What about bumping up the Hors D’Ouevres  to have a few beefier options? That way guests wont notice a lack of beef for the main meal.

    134 posts
    Blushing bee

    Umm, not cheap at all!  FMIL is being rude. 

    We are having chicken as our plated dinner to save on costs. No beef option here.  We are also getting a vegetarian (penne pasta) meal for family members that don’t eat meat. 

    We also chose the venue for the location and water view and 5000 sq ft elegant ballroom.  I feel like the last thing people are going to say when they look back on the night is “omgosh, I had to eat chicken!”


    :)   save the $$ !!!

    10654 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I think it’s typical to have chicken and either beef/fish.  So, you have chicken and a fish option I think that’s fine. 

    I do think people should have a choice though, so I wouldn’t go with just chicken.


    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @SunshineLovin:  i don’t think it’s a cheap menu at all but i do think that there is too much fish and seafood throughout the menu.  i know many people who will not care for the menu due to this. 

    there is no reason to have grouper as an app and a main.  i would have a couple of vegetarian appetizer in lieu of the seafood ones.

    pork loin is another inexpensive meat that could be served at dinner.  i think more guests would choose pork over grouper.

    these are just some suggestions.  i don’t know your guests, you do, so you know best.

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