Post # 1
brides with post wedding depression, HOW oh how do you get over it??! i can’t believe its been a month already. i just want to go back in time and look forward to it all over again.
don’t get me wrong, i LOVE my hubby and we couldnt be happier. but i MISS planning and looking forward to my wedding!! like so much it hurts! i even tell my DH i am depressed and he is surprisingly understanding, it only makes me love him more.,….but it doesn’t stop the pain of Post-Wedding Depression (PWD).
am i insane?? – i can take hearing it, i think i need a reality check.
Post # 3
I don’t think you are insane. I’ve never been married so I probably can’t relate.
However, I DO understand that after pouring all your time and energy into something you care so much about, to have it suddenly be done and gone could be jarring. I’m not surprised newly wed brides get a bit of depression.
Perhaps this would be an unhealthy transference, but I would suggest something new to devote yourself to. Something like a life long dream, goal etc.
Post # 4
I totally understand what you are going through, but I have bad news it’s been 7 months for me and I still want to live it all over again. I even asked my sister in law when she stopped thinking about her wedding and she said she hasn’t 🙁 When I told my hubby he told me it was ok and that we would get married again in 5 years. This time I told him he gets to do all the work and I’ll just show up pretty!!!
Post # 5
@CruiseWedding2010: oh noooo! i keep thinking this will be over in a couple of months. thats why when i realized its already been a month and it feels like it all happened last week made it even more depressing. not to mention my weddingbee addiction has skyrocketed since returning from Jamaica!
Post # 7
oh dear, I’m sorry you’re sad!!!
Do I think you’re insane? yes & no.
I also got REALLY EXCITED after the wedding just to have my normal life back. I’m a big “extracurricular” person, whether it’s something as little as reading books or cooking, or as big as a volunteer commitment or running a marathon, I felt like I had given EVERYTHING up during wedding-planning. Don’t you feel like you had given something up that you enjoy because you didn’t have the time?? Anyway, I was so excited to get back into READING and simple pleasures after wedding planning, it helped me “cope” a lot, made me feel like I had more control over how I spent my time. I hope you find something you missed over the past year and re-discover it!
Post # 8
@futuremrscrawford: i dunno, i really enjoyed the time i spent on wedding planning. in fact, sometimes i wish i was an event planner! how is that for crazy considering i am doing a PhD in child psychology!! i enjoyed planning my wedding MUCH more than writing reports on kids i have tested for example. so now that i am back to my life, i am back to things i wish i didnt have to do! maybe thats just cuz the other thing i should be devoting myself to is my thesis…… pooey. i see what you are saying though and i think once i am done grad school, i will value my time and do all the things i enjoy that i dont do now. wedding planning was my like my break from the stresses of real life though. and at times it made me serisouly consider my career choices!
Post # 10
@dynamic_duo: haha personally I can’t wait to have my one month anniversary! All this stress is KILLING ME! I have a hump of tension in my back, I’m not getting any sleep and my skin looks crappy. But I will probably be sad too when all the planning is over…I’ve been engaged for two years, its like I don’t know anything other than wedding planning.
Post # 11
im worrying about it too. i literally spend all day on the bee and making stuff for the wedding. ive considered selling stuff on etsy and that will keep me crafting but at the same time idk how i would advertise. i was thinking “tell me what you want and ill tell you if i can do it and for how much” lol
Post # 12
i have a long while to go before my wedding, but i can’t wait for it to be over (in some ways) because I’m giving up so much to save money for the wedding. I want to be able to be able to take vacations and travel. that’s what im looking forward to after the wedding. but i’m sure i’ll miss parts of the planning.
Post # 13
I am sorry you are sad…
It looks like you are having an AHR in August though, so maybe you can work on something for that?
I haven’t had time to get depressed yet from our wedding. I have been to busy with thank you cards and getting some albums together for my grandmother and my hubby’s parents. The albums are taking up more time than I imagined because I am not only cataloguing the pictures, I am writing a story inside the album to tell about the day, since they couldn’t be their. I am also busy writing vendor reviews.
Post # 14
I love all the planning. I’ll probably be sad too when it’s all over and I have nothing else to plan 🙁 So I might just have to convince my FI to have a “vow renewels” of just us every 5 years so I have something special to look forward to thats weddingish related. Not a true wedding, but something special with just the two of us, maybe on a cruise or some cool foreign country.
Post # 15
….I got pregnant lol. No but really, I went through the same thing and actually posted about it recently. I miss the pretty paper and my checklists and stressing the eff out. It was all so fun in hindsight 🙂
Post # 16
@dynamic_duo:I was pretty depressed one month in, and we hadn’t even had our ceremony yet. I feel like you’re par for the course and it gets much better. 🙂
Congratulations, you’re married!