Post # 1
Hello all! My boyfriend recently let it slip that he bought me an engagement ring. I was a little dissapointed at first because I absolutely hate for any kind of suprise to be ruined. Then I became overwhelmed with excitement because I knew it was coming. I then asked him to keep the rest the details a secret – but he didn’t! The next day he blurted out “your ring has three stones!” out of nowhere and I became very upset and started crying because I felt like he was ruining something that I (and I think we all) look forward to since we were little girls. THEN the next day I was commenting on all of the bills that I had to pay that day and he said, “Well I just spent $2500.” By that point I was really upset because he just couldn’t keep it a secret. Again, I started crying, he felt bad and has vowed to keep my proposal a secret. I know he is really excited, but he is taking away my excitement too! – Especially when I keep asking him to keep it a secret!
Another thing that bothers me is that he never took me ring shopping! I would have at least liked for him to know somewhat of what kind of ring-style I would have liked. I am a pretty simple gal, but I am worried he picked out something that isn’t “me.” Is $2500 a decent amount to spend on a ring? He’s in the Army and I know he can’t afford anything too extravagant. See, now I am stressing because I have TOO much information! Gee whiz! Someone please tell me if I am stressing too much! Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s ruined. You are stressing too much. Hell, I helped FH pay for my ring and pick it out and it was still special. Just stop building it up so much and thinking it has to match a childhood fantasy. It will be special no matter what.
And besides…if he took you ring-shopping, wouldn’t that ruin the surprise even more than him just telling you “It has three stones”?
Post # 4
No, nothing will ruin that moment. I knew for sure it was coming exactly when it did, and we shopped for the ring together, and it was still very moving to see everything become REAL.
Post # 5
just relax!! nothing will ruin the moment…i wanted to go ring shopping too but my fiance completely surprised me and picked out a beautiful ring…stop stressing girl!
Post # 6
aw yeah i’d be pretty pissed too if my hubby had blurted out stuff like that! what is he thinking?? it’s rather insensitive, and strange that he blurted out a design detail and then mentioned the price… its kinda weird. I dont think you’re stressing out too much, i’d have the same reaction! try not to let yourself get caught up in it though. try to look at it from this point of view: everyone’s proposal is different and yours just happens to include teaser hints leading up to the actual proposal, so enjoy it as it comes! but tell him to shut the f*ck up in the meantime lol!
Post # 7
I knew how much my ring cost, what it looked like, and when he picked it up from the jeweler. I knew it all because he was so excited. I mean super excited!!! I will tell you this, it won’t ruin a thing. It will hit you like a ton of bricks and you will love every second after he puts it on your finger.
This is a shot in the dark, but I was a Psychology major. Men love praise from their women and they love when they can accomplish something that makes us happy or smile (just like a dog). He is probably feeling a HUGE sense of accomplishment that he was able to pick it out all by himself and that he was able to purchase it all on his own. I don’t think he is trying to be insensitive or ruin anything at all.
Post # 8
The proposal isn’t ruined. It will still be very special.
I thought I had ruined my proposal becasue
1) I accidentally SAW the ring beforehand AND
2) FI left the empty ring box on the corner of the bed the day he was planning to propose.
However, it was still the most wonderful special proposal and he STILL managed to catch me off guard!
Post # 9
Quit it. That moment will still be so special you’ll even forget all of this business you are mentioning here.