- 10 years ago
My only thought would be that you need to make sure that you have plenty of items that are less than 50, 50-100, 100-150, and 150+. The vast majority of your items should be less than 100.
I just wouldn’t be surprised if you didn’t get the china, since people may not want to spend $135 on a teacup. They may want to spend, say, $150, but want to get you something "more" than "just" a cup.
I think it depends on lots of stuff. Will many of your guests be travelling very far for the wedding (and thus incurring expenses aside from your wedding present)? Will you be inviting lots of older guests who might have more cash than recent college grad/grad school type students who may not have lots of expendable cash? I don’t think you should factor in how much YOU are spending per person, since most guests don’t consider that when buying a present. You’re right that people generally have a few big ticket items on their regstries (the kitchenaid mixer comes to mind!), but $300+/place setting DOES seem really expensive. I guess the real question becomes: how would you feel if you didn’t get many of those because they were out of many people’s price ranges? If you’d feel "gipped" because your registry wasn’t filled, or if you only got one of two place settings, maybe you should pick something that’s closer to most people’s price point ($100-150ish). That’s just my two cents. Hope it helps!
i’m dealing with this same question now. the fact that we’re registered for a $400 pot is a little weird to me. but dahlia’s right — as long as you have enough of a choice, you’re fine. my mom pointed out that some people want to give you a $400 gift and won’t want to get you lots of little things to have to do that.
the only thing i would say is that if you don’t get the full number of place settings that you register for (say you register for 12 but only get 7), are you okay with either a) shelling out the cash to complete your set (and at $300/place that can be a lot!), or b) having an odd number of place settings?
another thing you should think about is… some ppl may choose to buy you the $300+ china setting but it may not get bought out. So you’re left with either buying it out yourself or having an incomplete china set. This happened to a few of my friends and it was a pain b/c you either return everything or spend $$$$ to buy out the rest of the peices.
oops – didn’t read rebecca’s post… guess we had the same thoughts. good luck with whatever you decide!
You should have those items on your registry. That’s what they are for….for you to pick out things you really want. Just make sure you do have items below $100 and in the $100-$200 range. I would totally be one of those people who would get the plates if that’s what you want.
Thanks for your all your comments!
Yes, we should and will def. have lots of stuff under $100… I’m hoping it will make the expensive stuff not be so obvious.
I won’t feel gipped about not getting all of the nice china, but more than that I’d feel kinda embarassed that I was so off the mark. We’re having a lot of out of country guests (my FI is from England) so we’re hoping and thinking that ppl will make it a long holiday (vegas bachrlor party for the boys the w/e before the wedding). but I feel that its balanced by the exchange rate which is in their favor. The sterling is dbl the dollar right now.
Good points about having to possibly buy the china ourselves if we don’t get enough settings. I think we’d definitely do that… in fact I may even put some things I don’t want on the registry but are cheaper so that I can return them and get the china, (if I dont get all the china).
Thanks for all your input !!!
Just a follow up bora- I’m also in the UK with my FI, but our wedding is in CA, and we have lots of guests travelling from the UK. I don’t know where in the states your wedding is, or what time of year, but flights are REALLY expensive (like 700 GBP LHR-California). Just something to keep in mind.
I think you’re fine-I’d rather someone register for china and crystal (and recieve several pieces and later build on it themselves) than ask for a flat screen tv-now THAT is tacky!
southernbella, why is a tv tacky?
I don’t have fine china on my registry…but I do have a moderate television…because we need one. Isn’t that what a registry is for? Nice stuff, but also a chance for friends and family to give you stuff you need?
I’d also suggest checking your registry more frequently as your wedding date approaches to make sure one price range or another isn’t running out of items too quickly. You don’t want to make people feel obligated to get you one of your splurge items just because it’s all that’s left.
I wouldn’t worry too much as long as you have many price ranges ($30–$150+), because two different guests who might not spend as much (ie, two couples or two aunts, etc.) might go in on a gift so they can double their money and get a bigger ticket item such as a place setting or KitchenAid Stand Mixer (can you tell I’m registering for one?!).
I don’t want to hijack the post but I was interested when southernbella said to register for a tv is tacky and rebecca asked her why she though that. what do you think? I think it is tacky but I can’t articulate why I think so, what the ‘dividing line’ is……but I know a girl who registered for a hair straightener and I remember feeling that that was pretty silly.
Definitely have a good price range of gifts you register for. Most places recommend having a larger number of gifts in the $50-100 and $100-125 price range. I think it also depends on your guests and what they can afford…you know them best. Just don’t be disappointed if you aren’t able to get all the place settings you registered for…there’s always the risk that some people may be very generous and get you some of the teacups and place settings…and others may not be able to afford it. Worst thing that can happen is that you may get an odd number (ie 1, 2 or 3) of plates/cups and have to buy the rest yourselves…just be prepared for that! If you already know, you can’t afford to complete the settings yourself, it may be best to just take them off of the registry and go with something else.
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