- 3 years ago
My sister is 29 and I am 25. We are COMPLETE opposites.
I have always been deemed the “social butterfly” and have had a few boyfriends since high school and partied with the best of them (I outgrew it after about junior year in college, though). She has always been described as having an “old soul” and has always, until now, judged everyone for doing anything she disagrees with, like drinking or just socializing loudly in general.
We have never particuarly gotten along, but we, for the most part, stand eachother because we are sisters and thats what sisters do. I have lived with her for the past 2 years which has helped, because it has given her time to realize I am not as crazy and irresponsible as she always thought I was.
Now that you have the background…I asked her to be a bridesmaid a few months ago. She straight up told me she had no interest in being MOH because she didn’t want to have to do anything. I was rather relieved because I didn’t want her to be. My best friend, my MOH, has been trying to plan things, like my Bachelorette party, which she is refusing to go to because it will cost her $200 for the whole weekend. (she has more than enough money and spends it like water, she just doesn’t want to partake, according to my mother..). Her excuse is that she has to go a friend’s daughter’s birthday party the next morning…. I am very dissappointed, because I would like everyone to be there. Especially because we are eachothers only siblings, and looking back I will be sad that she wasn’t there to experience that with me. We aren’t going partying or anything, it is a relaxing weekend at a resort w/ a pool and a spa.
On top of that, she has recently started dating her 2nd boyfriend ever (5 months in). I moved out a week ago and he is already moving in. He is a nice enough guy, but she changes around him. She doesn’t do certain things anymore because he doesn’t want her to, she has recently started drinking like a fish, and she spends every available minute with him. I have little respect for girls who do that. Stand up for what and who you are and don’t mold to what you think the guy wants. I know it is exciting, but her excuse is she’s 29 and time is running out….
Anyway, they are already talking about marriage, and she has mentioned it’s going to happen/wants it to happen around the time of my wedding in November. I am extremely annoyed because I feel like they would be doing it on purpose to steal the show OR they are completely disregarding my feelings and what is going on around them. Why couldn’t they wait another month? What is the rush? They wouldn’t have even been dating for a year!! It would be the talk of the town at my wedding if she were newly engaged, and we are getting married right before Thanksgiving so it would be the talk of the Holidays. I know we can not “hoard” the conversations, but I do think it is disrespectful of them to do it literally within a week or two of the wedding. I would never in a million years want to get engaged around the same time as my sisters wedding, and I know for a fact my FI would never do that to her.
Am I alone in thinking this is odd or should I just shrug it off?