Is my sister being reasonable?? House renting.

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You should definitely talk to her. Discuss a rent amount that would be comfortable for both of you, while considering other bills and expenses, so that she doesn’t feel like you’re thinking only of her. And also set the expectation of what would happen IF rent/bills can’t be met. It’s an important conversation that you should have with any roommate before moving in so it won’t be weird.

ETA: Wait, it’s a place separate from the one you’re looking at right? Not the same one. Whoops! I would still express concern anyway, because she is your sister. Is she pretty open to hearing things that might not be ideal or is she defensive?

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes I would talk to her now.  It will just help and hopefully prevent any issues in the future that may come up.  Do up a budget showing her what each of you would be projected to pay for your portion of the rent/bills and see if she is comfortable with that amount.  If not, perhaps you can work something else out or find something cheaper that will work for you both.

Also, are there plans to move in with a SO in the near future?  If so, perhaps it would not be a good idea to move in with your sister, as you wouldn’t want her to have to move again so soon should she not be able to afford the place on her own, and especially with health issues with both her and your niece.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

 

Pippa28:  Ah, I’m sorry I completely read that wrong!  Well, if it were my own sister, and because of our relationship, I would have no trouble expressing my feelings to her.  But because you’ve just explained that she is very defensive, I may just try to gently mention it to her by saying “I’ve heard that you should only spend 30% of your income on your home…is that something you can work with right now?” or something along those lines.  If she thinks she can do it, perhaps you need to let her try and (hopefully not) make her own mistakes.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ryansgirl:  agreed.

OP, the house may not even approve her based on her income (where I live you need to make 3x the rent/month or have a cosigner) so that might open her eyes a little bit.

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