Post # 1
My RSVP’s are in and there are about 70 people attending. We only invited around 85 and it’s simply because we have ridiculously small families. I keep hearing comments from our Vendors such as “Well since your wedding is so small you can do this…” etc.
Is 70 really considered a small wedding?
I think the reason i’m worried (paranoid?) is because i’m getting married in a Catholic Basilica and it’s GIANT. Like I might have to stop halfway down the isle and have a cocktail. 🙂 I’m afraid it’s going to look wierd!!
Post # 3
Whoa, 70 is not small! We had 17–that’s small. 70 is what I’d call about medium-sized.
Post # 4
I personally think it’s pretty small, because we’re doing 150 🙂 But I originally wanted an intimate 75 person wedding.
I guess you could call it intimate!
Post # 5
yeah I’d call it smallish to medium sized. We had 50 people, which I considered “intimate”, but it’s all about perspective.
I wouldn’t worry about the church thing. The ceremony will be beautiful, I would just keep everyone clustered together in their seats, rather than people sitting 20 rows back.
Post # 6
I think its considered small but like another person said you will get to have everyone up there with you. Mine is about double that but just because I have the opposite problema nd have a huge family (like there are nine siblings total between half, step and full blood siblings just on my side). I wish everyone would get getting divorced and having kids with different people. 😛
Post # 7
I would call it medium sized as well. We are having 50, so I would call mine small. If you are dealing with a large banquet facility, remember they can hold business events as well up to 500 people. Don’t stress! The next time they comment on your small wedding you should use it as your advantage when price negotating on something… like some sorbet thrown in during dinner for free, because, you know… you’re wedding is soooo small and it wouldn’t be costly for them 😀
Post # 8
I do think it is small but it isnt that small. To me small is anything less than 100ish. A medium/average sized wedding is 100-175 and a big wedding is over that.
Post # 9
i agree with mrs. grape – not small! i had 17 people and that was small!! 70 sounds medium, and i wouldnt worry about anything looking weird, no one will think anything!
Post # 10
I think under 100 is small, under 200 is medium and anything over 201+ is large 🙂
It’s not bad to have a small wedding though, our list is around 140 and I’d prefer it to be under 100!
Post # 11
im about 50 ish. i had a cake baker tell me i was better off getting a sheet cake though. im not ordering from then obviously…
Post # 12
I’d consider it smallish, but it’s subjective. We were initially going to have 150 which I think is an average size, but we are going to have around 75 which is a perfect size in our opinion (FI and I).
Post # 13
Don’t think of it as a bad thing. I like smaller weddings more than larger ones. It seems like the bride and groom have more time to talk to their guests and you don’t feel lost in a sea of tables. I went to a wedding with over 300 guests and never even got to talk to the bride. I felt like we were in the club and some random woman and man were dressed up like they were getting married.
Think of the cost savings. You aren’t paying for 200 dinners, drinks, invites, stamps, favors, thank you cards, ect. I am trying to keep my number below 125. 70 would be awesome!
Post # 14
@cr6zy A cake baker told me that too when I wanted a stacked cake for my shower. I think that’s rude! I bought a gorgeous stacked cake from another baker and the entire thing was consumed by the guests.
I’m okay with the number I guess. I also sortof wish there were a few more because my parents are unhappily divorced and I’m afraid that will be a focus because there won’t be enough people to distract from it.
Post # 15
I sort of judge everything with 150 being “medium.” I don’t really have any like hard and fast rules, but to me, anything under 100 is small (under 25 is tiny), 100-150 is medium, 150-200 is large medium, 200-300 is large, and 300+ is huge.
You know, more or less. Not really a scientific measurement or anything. I think a lot of vendors probably see a wide variety of numbers, and so they might be more used to a certain scale. It’s really just perception and what you’re comfortable with!
Post # 16
we had 75 and I think thats about normal. Don’t let vendors tell you how you should act on your big day!!! Just because they work w/mega clients doesnt mean your day is any less special!!