Post # 1
So here’s the deal. I’m thinking that a hotel block wouldn’t work for us. My extended family ranges from really poor to middle class and FI’s extended family ranges from upper-middle class to mega rich (ironically, my parents are much more well-off than FI’s, our families are kind of the respective black sheep of our sides, which makes the situation even weirder). I can’t imagine finding a hotel that would suit the needs of both sides of our family, or even the entirety of either side of the family. The “costly, but reasonable given it’s in NYC” hotel for my family would be a “dump” to FI’s. Also, I am going into what I anticipate to be the busiest time of the next five years of my life and the headache of blocking a hotel in NYC frankly just isn’t something I want to deal with on top of all the other wedding planning and everything else I need to deal with, even though all our guests will be OOT except for the FIL’s. Maybe I can make recommendations of, say, four or five hotels in varying price ranges and give directions from the venue to each, but blocking just doesn’t seem sensible.
Are you blocking a hotel for your guests? Why or why not? Will my guests think I’m a jerk for not going through the trouble of blocking a hotel? It just doesn’t seem to make sense for our situation.
Post # 3
We are not. A lot of our OOT guests are family, so they will be staying with family near by, or close friends. It didn’t seem logical. I also couldn’t understand quite how it would work incase we blocked too many.
Post # 4
We are not making actual blocks at hotels, but on our invitations, we are sending hotel suggestions. One will be a higher-priced hotel for the rich folk, two middle of the road hotels, and two budget hotels.
Post # 5
We are not blocking any rooms for our guests. It just wouldn’t work for us. We are having a relatively small wedding and, like your families, income varies drastically. Instead, we put a bunch of different recommended hotels on our website and included our website on our save-the-dates. We are also going to include an accommodation card with our invitattions that directs them to our website for more information.
Post # 6
Thanks for the responses, ladies. Glad to see I’m not alone on this. I hope no one thinks I’m being inconsiderate, but really, I think it’ll be most considerate of me to not block and instead let them choose the hotel they’re most comfortable with!
Post # 7
We have very few OOT guests plus our city isn’t going to be crazy busy over Labor day (most people will be at lakes etc), so I doubt there will be a problem with finding a hotel. We listed suggestions on our website at a variety of price ranges to allow people to decide how much they wanted to spend.
Post # 8
I have never heard of hotel blocks before reading about them on WB. Our friends and relatives don’t even know what one is, much less how to use one. As a guest, I have never felt like I was cheated because the couple didn’t block a hotel. If anything, the accommodations are the guest’s responsibility, no one else’s.
Post # 9
The benefit of a hotel block is you lock in a rate (usually at a discount) for your guests. I don’t see why you couldn’t set up 2-3 small blocks at different level hotels. I set up one block because I want to provide transport but if I weren’t doing that I would have looked for different price ranges. You can still suggest different level hotel but with the block, you guests are guaranteed rooms at a predetermined rate. I actually got a lot of quotes and ultimately chose my hotel by going through a website I found when looking for a bus. It’s called http://www.busrates.com, look for the hotel planner. You put in everything you want and hotels make offers.
Post # 10
We might not. Our venue is right downtown and so I assumed we’d just block the nearest hotel and be done with it. But when I called to set up a block, they quoted me a rate HIGHER than the published rate on their website…. wha??? Same thing happened with the next hotel down the block. F that. I gave FI the job of calling around to all the hotels downtown to see if all of them are like that, and if so we’re just going to list the closest hotels and be done with it.
Post # 11
we blocked hotel rooms at only a slight discount – but mainly because its a holiday weekend in a tourist town – i blocked enough for my wedding party to ensure they get a room to stay in and the rest of the family and friends can choose but i let them know where we are staying in case they want the same hotel.
we also put suggestions on the invite for accomidations – because if folks arent from the area, i dont want them to end up in some roach motel.
most hotel blocks arent much of a discount, its just ensuring rooms will be available for your guests. i would suggest that if anyone in your bridal party is OOT – maybe block out enough rooms for them? not necessarily the guests in general…
Post # 12
We are not blocking rooms in a hotel, but we did recommend a few on our wedding website. We’re having a smaller wedding. In your case, I think making suggestions or blocking rooms at two different hotels (based on cost) might be good.
Post # 13
We’re not blocking hotel rooms..we have only a few OOT guests, and we can make hotel recommendations if they ask, but we’re not blocking at any specific ones.
Post # 14
Almost all of our guests were OOT as well. We had blocks at two hotels — one was a nicer, more expensive hotel and one was less expensive and more family friendly (all suites with pull-out couches). That way people could choose which one worked for them.
The nice thing was we got a good discount at both hotels, so the nicer one, which is usually about $250-$300/night was $169. (This was not in NYC.) I don’t think it’s absolutely necessary, but you wouldn’t have to choose just one hotel. There are so many hotels in NYC though, that if you don’t have blocks, I would definitely give recommendations for where to stay, so people wouldn’t be so overwhelmed in trying to book their travel.
Post # 15
If I were a guest I would wonder why you didn’t, even if you were only saving me $20 a night of the regular price, I would really appreciate it. Even if they don’t give you a price break (which is weird I have never heard of that before), it’s nice to know there are rooms blocked and the hotel won’t sell out, causing guests to find somewhere else in a city they may not be familiar with. You can do it at a couple hotels to get varing price ranges.
Post # 16
Nope. I looked into blocking out rooms at like, a Drury, and yet the rooms were CHEAPER on Travelocity than the group rate they were giving.