Post # 1
We are having a destination wedding, just the two of us, no guests invited (and leaving in a couple of days, yay!). I’ve been asked by several people where we are registered at and I have always responded with we are neither asking for nor expecting to receive gifts. Some understand, some smile and say they are going to get something anyway. Today it was pointed out (in a very kind way) that we were making it hard for people whom were truly wanting to buy us a nice gift to celebrate our wedding by not having a registry. That we should just open up and put a few things on it. Now I’m worried that maybe that is the case? What do you think? Should we put together a quick one? is it too late to? In a perfect world, we wouldn’t receive any, but I’ve been in the gift giver shoes and I would get one anyway.
So, what do you think we should do?
Post # 2
We had a very small registry purely for this reason.<br /><br />You could always toss a handful of stuff in an Amazon registry. That makes it easy for people.
Post # 3
I was wondering about that too. FI and I dont need any housewares or anything. A donation to our honeymoon fun would be practical and greatly appreciated, but I know I cant exactly put that on the invitation. So I guess we just wont register and see what happens
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
mtom: LOL! This is eactly my point on another bees post asking if it is rude to have a shower before a DW. Some people will get you something no matter what. Make a small registry for them.
Post # 5
We’ve asked our guests to please just join us, no gifts needed, and then they can donate to a charity if they want to mark the occasion. But there were still a few people who insisted that we HAD to have a registry, so I made an Amazon one and gave the link just to my mom — with the instructions to tell people that we really do NOT need anything.
msfreemis: Good for you for being polite about it! We just had friends send an email (from the bride) saying that they don’t need anything, but they directed guests to a honeymoon funding page that had no activities/experiences…just a place to enter a dollar amount.
Post # 6
mtom: We are having a “regular” (non-destination) wedding with guests and we are not registering. People can deal. I’d rather not get any gifts so I’m not going to make up a list. If people feel compelled to buy us something, that is certainly nice but I’d rather they didn’t so no registry. We haven’t sent out invitations yet so I haven’t had the issue come up, but I hope we don’t get flak.
Post # 7
We were married in March and had a 65 guest wedding. We never registered and let it know through word of mouth that gifts were not necessary because we plan on moving a fair distance in a few short months and shipping costs would be expensive enough. We ended up getting a bunch of gift cards and cash and no one complained.
It isn’t rude to not register. But I do think it’s rude to tell a bride her decision to not register was difficult on guests.
Post # 8
it’s not rude. if you don’t want to register? don’t register.
we attended a DW earlier in the year. the bride and groom didn’t register, because they’re moving to hawaii for grad school, and won’t be able to bring tons and tons of stuff with them. my mother, however, refused to go without a gift. and cross stitched them a wallhanging. not a big deal, not a big present. but she did it anyway, and the couple was thrilled.
Post # 9
mtom: It’s not rude at all! However, be prepared for people to still show up with gifts, I for one would never show up to a wedding empty-handed. Hopefully you don’t end up with a bunch of stuff you don’t want/need.
Post # 10
I don’t think it’s rude, if the couple doesn’t need any gift, then why force them?
me and FI are not planning to have a registry, we tried but we really don’t need anything…
If there is something that I would appreciated, it would be honeymoon fund but I don’t think it’s right to do so…
I would like to receive cash as gift on my big day but I’m not expecting at all… if it turn out we have to cover everything, then we just have to suck it up. That’s just life
Post # 11
I dont think its rude, but for people that really want to buy you two a gift, I maybe would. However, if people are that adoment on getting a gift, I dont see a problem with gift certs. I personally prefer buying gift certs!
Post # 12
Thank you everybody! We really thought we could get away with running off and having noone notice. I think if we weren’t leaving in 35 hours (who’s counting) we might put something together to make it easier for those that really want to, but you have all given me the confidence now not to.
We really appreciate your time and input!!