Is off-white okay for a white and black attire party?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Don’t go.  That’s doing too much.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If the party is at night, it will likely be dimly lit and the offwhite will look white.

I’ve had a friend do this.  It’s so she can wear a bright color (like red) and stick out against the crowd.  Off white is fine!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think the offwhite dress is fine. I also think the black skirt and a black or white blouse is fine. As a friend, I would not expect you to go buy a new dress just to attend my party. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Also, if she drops you as a friend for wearing an off-white dress…then you’re better off.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@tmsing:  I say that’s fine…Not sure where you’re from but I think stark white looks strange once the weather starts being cooler.  Winter-white is probably most appropriate!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think its fine. What is she going to do, kick you out?

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yeesh… I’d just skip the damn thing. Not like you’re visiting Buckingham Palace or something. Why the annoying dress code??

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would probably opt for a black skirt and black top if I were you. If she “defriends” you over not wearing a dress, she wasn’t much of a friend in the first place. But if you’re sure she’ll give you a hard time over what you’re wearing, don’t go at all. No real friend would do that. 

One of my “friends” (and I use the term loosely) once threw a birthday party for herself and had a “wear white but black is okay if you must, and dress to impress” dress code. Her husband was the only one who wore all white, everyone else showed up in black jeans and black tops because the weather was horrid. White in February? I don’t think so! lol 

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you could wear off white, or wear either the white of black skirt. If you add a blouse or sweater, and she  complains it’s not a dress , she is not worth the effort.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@tmsing:  Do you have black shoes etc? It’s clear she wants black and white. Leaving aside the debate on whether specifying the color is appropriate (themed parties do exist), if you are going to go to the trouble of wearing black, why bring in the burgundy? It might come across as “flaunting the rules” or attention seeking.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think the off white dress is the best option.  It sticks to the dress rule, and depending on the lighting no one may even notice.   And if she does happen to bring it up (which I think is rude, since you tried very hard to fit this theme) then just say “Oh, I thought this dress was white?  It looked white at home, maybe our lighting is different.”

Really some people are more color sensative than others, and there are like 100 shades of white.  It’s totally possible that one person would consider a color winter white or eggshell and someone else would see it as off-white.

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