Is offering to pay half of the hair styling an acceptable BM gift?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t give them anything wedding related. If they choose to get their hair done, they now it is 60 dollars. I’d like it ten times better if I received an actual $30 present.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I think as long as it’s not the only thing you’re giving them, and as long as you’re not requiring them to get their hair done, it’s a lovely gesture.

It’s not really a gift, though.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@bebero:  I agree that the gift should have nothing to do with the wedding and should be an actual gift.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If I was a BM at your wedding and received the offer of $30 off my hair for the day, it would make me feel like I needed to get it done (regardless of if you said it wasn’t mandatory). That being so, I like the idea of using the $30 toward another gift not related to the wedding. As some other bees already said, they know what the cost of hair will be and can decide on their own if they want to do it/can afford it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@bmo88:  I paid for half the cost of my bridesmaids to get their hair professionally done because I didn’t want them to have to pay $50 on top of their dress/alterations cost.. I didn’t think of it as part of their ‘gift’, but just as a way to help them off-set the financial impact of or wedding.

I think it’s definitely a nice gesture..

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

It’s a lovely gesture, like pp said its not really a gift. The bag of girly stuff is thoughtful. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Paying for half of something to get done specifically for the purposes of your wedding isn’t a gift i’m afraid. A voucher is a real nice idea though, and they could then use it for something that they want.

 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Two of my bridesmaids chose to get their hair done at the same salon where I was getting my hair done. I gave them a gift card for $50 for the salon to go towards their hair. They were surprised and happy with it. I knew for a fact that they were getting their hair done there, the appointements were already made, and they were planning on paying for it themselves. My third bridesmaid was going to do her own hair, so I gave her a gift card to Sephora to use on whatever.

Personally, I love gift cards for things like salons, spas, etc (probably because I live in a small condo and don’t have room for lots of stuff).

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would get them a gift card. Half off their hair for your wedding is nice, but not really a present…

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Any gift that requires the recipient to spend money to redeem isn’t really a gift.

 

Are the bridesmaids required to get their hair done? If so, you really should be paying for all of it. If they aren’t required to get their hair done, then it’s a really nice gesture, but it’s still not a gift.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think so, I have gotten jewelery as a gift many times as a BM specifically to wear for the wedding.  I’d rather they paid half of my hair than give me a necklace to wear for their day that I will never wear again!!  (they are usually in the wedding colors and too formal to just wear out normally).  Besides, you are also giving them the other items, which I think is gift enough!!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I would rather have the gift card and do my own hair. I’ve never had to pay to get my hair done for a wedding (not even my own) so if given the option, I would decline. 

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