Post # 1
So I have made each of my bridesmaids a cute little spa bags that include flip flops, a $5 starbucks gift card (for the morning off coffee), a pedicure set, tissues, chapstick, bath salts and a bath sponge. In total they each come to about $15 each (I got some great deals!).
Now, I am thinking of offering to help pay for each BM’s hairstyle on the day of the wedding. However, I cannot afford to pay for all of them. It is $60 per girl and that would be out of budget.
Would it be acceptable to offer to pay half? Essentially $30 off for them? So they would only need to pay $30 each.
Should I just stick with the current gift and add in another $30 card to somewhere else?
ETA: I am not requiring them to have their hair professionally done. If one of them were to decline the offer, I would get her a gift card in the same amount as the hair.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t give them anything wedding related. If they choose to get their hair done, they now it is 60 dollars. I’d like it ten times better if I received an actual $30 present.
Post # 4
I think as long as it’s not the only thing you’re giving them, and as long as you’re not requiring them to get their hair done, it’s a lovely gesture.
It’s not really a gift, though.
Post # 5
@bebero: I agree that the gift should have nothing to do with the wedding and should be an actual gift.
Post # 6
If I was a BM at your wedding and received the offer of $30 off my hair for the day, it would make me feel like I needed to get it done (regardless of if you said it wasn’t mandatory). That being so, I like the idea of using the $30 toward another gift not related to the wedding. As some other bees already said, they know what the cost of hair will be and can decide on their own if they want to do it/can afford it.
Post # 7
@bmo88: I paid for half the cost of my bridesmaids to get their hair professionally done because I didn’t want them to have to pay $50 on top of their dress/alterations cost.. I didn’t think of it as part of their ‘gift’, but just as a way to help them off-set the financial impact of or wedding.
I think it’s definitely a nice gesture..
Post # 8
It’s a lovely gesture, like pp said its not really a gift. The bag of girly stuff is thoughtful.
Post # 9
Paying for half of something to get done specifically for the purposes of your wedding isn’t a gift i’m afraid. A voucher is a real nice idea though, and they could then use it for something that they want.
Post # 10
Two of my bridesmaids chose to get their hair done at the same salon where I was getting my hair done. I gave them a gift card for $50 for the salon to go towards their hair. They were surprised and happy with it. I knew for a fact that they were getting their hair done there, the appointements were already made, and they were planning on paying for it themselves. My third bridesmaid was going to do her own hair, so I gave her a gift card to Sephora to use on whatever.
Personally, I love gift cards for things like salons, spas, etc (probably because I live in a small condo and don’t have room for lots of stuff).
Post # 11
I would get them a gift card. Half off their hair for your wedding is nice, but not really a present…
Post # 12
Any gift that requires the recipient to spend money to redeem isn’t really a gift.
Are the bridesmaids required to get their hair done? If so, you really should be paying for all of it. If they aren’t required to get their hair done, then it’s a really nice gesture, but it’s still not a gift.
Post # 13
I think so, I have gotten jewelery as a gift many times as a BM specifically to wear for the wedding. I’d rather they paid half of my hair than give me a necklace to wear for their day that I will never wear again!! (they are usually in the wedding colors and too formal to just wear out normally). Besides, you are also giving them the other items, which I think is gift enough!!
Post # 14
I would rather have the gift card and do my own hair. I’ve never had to pay to get my hair done for a wedding (not even my own) so if given the option, I would decline.
Post # 15
@missmess: As I added in my original post, I am not requiring them to get their hair done. I am giving them a gift bag as well (see OP). Essentially, even a gift card that pays for part of their hair, should they want it done, would be the same as giving someone a gift card for $30 to a store. If they spend more than $30, they have to cover the rest.
Technically, depending on the hair style they choose, it will cost between $30 and $60. I also noted in my original post that if they do not want their hair done, I would offer a $30 gift card to a store of their choice.
Post # 16
@lucy33: I think this is a great idea. 3 of the 4 said they were planning on getting their hair done at the same salon I am going to. So I think I will buy them gift cards to the salon. The other BM, my younger sister, loves music, so I will likely get her an I-Tunes gift card. She doesn’t like anybody touching her hair, so she doesn’t want to get it done.