Post # 1
I am hoping for some opinions on something.
FI and I both dislike red wine quite a lot and I know at most weddings several people only drink it if it is on the table because of just that, it is on the table and free.
I’m sure there are some people that love it so I am wondering if it is necessary to have as much red as white.
What FI and I like and think is a great idea would be offering guests white wine and beer instead of white and red. The servers will be pouring for everyone so it is not something that needs to sit on the table.
The main reason behind this is that FI and all his groomsmen detest wine and since the bar has to be closed during dinner I thought beer would be a great alternative.
So, do you think it would be ok to only have a few bottles of red on hand for those that really like it and have white and beer during dinner, or should we go with red and white and forgo the beer, keeping in mind FI hates wine….
What do you guys think??
Post # 3
I didn’t know red wine was a requirement. All the weddings I’ve been to didn’t have wine, but then again, the weddings I’ve been to have been more casual and laid back as opposed to a black tie affair.
Offer what you’d like is my opinion. It’s your wedding, right? So why not serve what you and your fiance like?
Post # 4
Are you guys buying your own alcohol, or is the venue providing it? What’s your menu?
I think having both wine and beer is a good idea, and if you are buying your own and don’t want to get stuck with a bunch of leftover red you won’t drink, it’s fine to tilt the balance toward white. (I think it’s smart to still have *some* red on hand for your guests who may prefer it.) If your venue is providing the alcohol, they will probably take care of having both available.
ETA: If you end up with a few bottles of unused red left over at the end, you can always give them as gifts.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@skippygurl: Even if you and FI don’t like wine, your other guests may.
Typically when you say “wine and beer hosted” it means a regular and light beer, a sweet and dry red AND white wine so that there is something for everyone.
So yes, I think if you’re having white wine that red is necessary as well.
Post # 6
In my experience as a server for a catering hall, people tend to drink more red wine than white. The only time a lot of people drank white was if there was a lot of seafood served.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If the guys need a drink during dinner, they can get one before the bar closes, or go without for the hour the bar is closed. There are guests that do love red wine, and it will be a lot easier for the catering staff to just deal with two bottles per table, versus all the beer bottles.
Post # 8
We would be providing our own wine, or at least buying whatever wine the venue would serve to people.
Post # 9
My sister served sangria at the tables instead of wine.
I also prefer white, but when I party plan for my work, I always get more red than white because it is more popular.
Post # 10
@rebwana Yeah that’s true, I didn’t even think of the clean up that would be involved.
@ohmybears48 That’s a really cool idea too.
I guess I have reached the part in the planning where I am trying to decide whether to do what we want or thank everyone for coming by giving them what they want.
It’s hard to come to that decision sometimes.
Post # 11
While I understand you and your FI do not like red wine, some of your guests may want to pair their meal with the proper choice of wine. So if you’re offering white you should offer red as well.
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@skippygurl: I guess I have reached the part in the planning where I am trying to decide whether to do what we want or thank everyone for coming by giving them what they want.
THEY’RE YOUR GUESTS. Try to keep what they might want in mind.
Post # 13
@skippygurl: I much prefer white wine myself, but something that I learned at my wedding reception was that the perks of the reception are really much more for your guests than for you. For example, we had an open bar and a coffee bar. If one of our venue’s coordinators hadn’t gotten a coffee for me, I never would have had time to go over there and enjoy that perk myself. You are busy beyond belief at your reception, whereas your guests are there to eat, drink, and celebrate with you. So I guess I’m just saying I’d try to look at it from a perspective of what your guests will most enjoy. 🙂
Post # 14
I think it totally depends on your crowd – ours is the opposite – lots of red and white only if asked for. As a wine drinker, I will tell you that red is best for drinking with a meal and maybe your older guests will like it. White is kind of a hot summer day or seafood drink – I think of it as sweet/girly/kinda gross. I would have both on hand if you don’t know what people like. It will also depend on time of day and temperature. Lighter drinks in the day time (white), heavier in the evening (red) and in a cooler temperature definitely red.
Just because they groomsmen don’t like it doesn’t mean everyone feels that way – if I went with that logic our wedding would be ONLY red wine, and I know alot of dudes wouldn’t like that, right?
Post # 15
@mchitt329 Yeah I know that’s what I have been generally deciding, that’s why I worded it like that in saying thanking them for coming..
And it wasn’t a case of not offering red wine at all, I think I worded it wrong initially, I was also wondering if people found they used as much of both.
Post # 16
@yellowshoe: Agreed – I’d go based off of what people are eating, and then pair accordingly. I guess if you don’t make red available, people will drink the white, but how happy I am with it will depend on a) what I’m eating (I’ve definitely picked my meal based on what cocktail/wine/beer I’m in the mood for that night), and b) how good the wine is. To me, a good white is better than red, but only 15-20% of whites are good in my book, vs probably 60% of reds, so the red is a “safer” bet.