Post # 1
So I realize in Western culture women are encouraged to be hair free in most places on our bodies. I am having laser hair removal on my lower legs, bikini area, and underarms because I am tired of shaving those areas. I do not have thick or extremely dark hair on my forearms, its rather fine and I never considered needing to get rid of it. This weekend one of my FSIL’s was visiting and at dinner she was talking about the fiance of one of my FBIL’s. She has longer more noticeable hair on her arms apparently (I’ve never even noticed I guess) and this seemed to disgust FSIL to a high degree, and I guess some of FI’s other siblings actually make fun of her behind her back about it. I then saw her looking at my arms and for the first time in almost 30 years felt just a tiny bit self concious about my arms! I noticed her arms later and she either shaves, waxes, or uses nair because her arms are totally bare. I have never noticed if FMIL or my other FSIL’s are the same, and FI has never said anything to me about it bothering him. Honestly it never bothered me and I really don’t think I’d ever want to mess with it, I know from my experience with the lasers so far that my arm hair is most likely too light/fine to respond to treatment.
I was just curious if this practice was extremely common, as none of the women in my family have ever mentioned it or look like they do it, and none of my friends have ever mentioned it either.
Post # 2
Update: I just sent FI a g-chat about it and he said when she was younger, FSIL had long arm hair and they made fun of her for it!
I told him they were horrible mean children!
Post # 3
I don’t do anything to my arm hair and I don’t plan on starting. I think I spend enough time shaving my body! Maybe if I had hairy gorilla arms I’d consider it, but I don’t find my arm hair gross in any way (plus once you start, you can’t stop doing it, forever and ever!) so it’s a non-issue.
Then again, I recently found out that many women shave their @$$holes (like, not their bikini area but the actual hole of their bum) so apparently there’s a lot of shaving going on out there that I never knew about.
Post # 4
I shave my forearm hair(the lower part not my upper arms!)because I have dark hair and when I was about 14 a guy in my class called me a caveman….so I’ve been shaving ever since then & it’s just habit now! It doesn’t even really grow anymore but I’m so used to having hair free forearms that I prefer it, I usually don’t notice hair on other women unless it’s thick & dark, but even if I did I certainly wouldn’t think them less feminine(your FSIL sounds delightful making fun or her SIL’s appearance btw..), each to their own but I prefer hair free arms. I seriously don’t think men notice either way, it’s something only bitchy women would notice.
Post # 5
I used to bleach my arm hair in high school, and most of my girlfriends Naired, waxed, or shaved theirs. As an adult, I just let it be. I have a hard enough time keeping up with my legs and bikini area, I really don’t have time to maintain hairless arms haha. But to each their own! I do still have friends who choose to go hairless on their arms, but this is not common practice in my experience.
Post # 6
iarebridezilla: hahaha! I have to hold my hands up to participating in the whole bum shave thing, I like to be thorough…
Post # 7
Not really a thing where I come from, none of my friends do it and the one person I saw with “naked” arms, well I thought it looked a bit strange!
Post # 8
I shave my forearm hair, but only because I am really really hairy. I have thick black hair (middle eastern girl in the house!). My SO definitely doesn’t care, but I feel much more feminine with it shaved. It takes like an extra minute in the shower, since I shave everything else it’s really not that big of a deal. I would get it waxed but I have extremely sensitive skin. If I had just a normal arm hair amount I wouldn’t do anything to it.
Post # 9
I have pretty hairy forearms. but its fine hair and it’s blonde. Once in a great while I’l shave them (i’m talking maybe twice in my life?) but it doesn’t bother me at all.
My fiance made a comment about my arms being hairy the other day (he is italian and is very hairy, with black hair) and I told him to shut it. I don’t have time or energy to worry about shaving my forearms, especially considering I’m 5’9 and have a whole hell of a lot of real estate to shave already!
Post # 10
Orchid71: My three brothers always made fun of me growing up (even in high school) about being hairy. Before I was allowed to shave, they made fun of my legs (I tried shaving at one point but my mom found out and I was in major trouble since I wasn’t allowed to yet).
They also said I had a stache, which I was too afraid to try and shave because it seemed manly, so I would hold a flashlight to my face for hours each night trying to lighten the hair. That was elementary/middle school… now I wax.
And now to my arms. I do have longer and more hair on my arms than most women, but it is not necessarily dark, for the most part it is blonde, even though I’m a brunette. I tried shaving them a few times because a few friends said they did that and it never came back… well I did it a few times and it just came back even worse. So I just stopped and left them how they were. It’s too much to keep up with. If I had never shaved them in the first place, though, I feel like it’d be a bit shorter.
It sucks to be the hairy girl with three brothers.
Post # 11
I nair mine in the winter, but in the summer I let it be. It’s only really noticeable when I get my winter anti-tan. When I’m more tan in the summer it looks pretty normal.
Post # 12
iarebridezilla: Haha yeah when I went to check out the laser spa they offered things I never would’ve thought of zapping before!
Post # 13
LeonardLady: I’m starting to learn how mean siblings can be!
Post # 14
Not too much of a thing around where I live. However, as a joke, one time I did shave my arms completely and now becuase of it, my hair never grew back the same, I had fine hair, but it was evenly disbursed on my arm, now I just have random hairs on my arm, so I shave so I don’t have random hairs on my arm.
Post # 15
I work with kids and they will make you insecure about the most random things. One recently asked me why I had hair on my arms…
if I was to remove it, I would only do laser hair removal for arms. I wouldn’t want to get in the habit of shaving them. But I’m not sure if I will remove it. It’s never bothered me that much.