- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
So I have a really, really large family and on my mom’s side, 90% of us grew up in the same town and for us, cousins were more like siblings. My dad’s side of the family is much smaller and I didn’t see them as often, but I was particularly close to 2 of my cousins, we’ll call them “Mike” and “Tracy.” Mike is at least 8-10 years older than I am and always took me to movies, Six Flags, the beach, etc. That is how we bonded & he even had me do a reading at his wedding 20 years ago. Tracy is his sister and about 6-8 years my senior & we were actually the only girls on that side of the family so we kind of got close by default.
We all remained close until I went away away to college and then moved around a bit & settled on the other side of the country. When I would come home to visit, Mike & his mom would always make an effort to see me & it was wonderful. Tracy never did. I moved back to the east coast in 2008 & got in touch with Mike & we picked up where we left off. We got together for family bbqs or to watch a football game, etc. His mom & our other aunt & cousins were there, but never Tracy. I got her number & called her, she never returned the call. She showed up on Mike’s Facebook page so I sent her a friend request and a note with my email & numbers & said I’d love to catch up soon… She accepted the request but never responded to my note or contacted me in any way. She has never sent me an email or private message or even commented on a family photo. Did I mention that she lives next door to her mom—who lives half a mile from me? Oh, and we sent our Save-The-Date Cards out about 10 days ago & both her mom and her brother received one.
All of a sudden today, I got this on my FB wall: “Hi Tootie! I hear congrats are in order! I am so happy for you and would love to see you. Hit me back. Smooches, Tracy.”
What makes it even more odd to me is that literally EVERY picture of her on her FB page was taken at someone’s wedding. Every photo has a caption “So & So’s wedding” and there are at least 5 or 6 different weddings in the photos.
So, now I’m feeling like she is only contacting me so I’ll be obligated to invite her to our wedding. Fiance and I both have large families and the guest list is an issue. We’ve had to make some tough decisions and not invite several relatives to try to keep it reasonable, so I only sent Save-The-Date Cards to Mike & his wife, his mom & my only other aunt on that side of the family who lives in the area. I didn’t notify my other cousins (they are all grown & married and didn’t invite us to their weddings) or Tracy because if they are invited, they will be on the “B list” for after we have received some regrets.
Am I being sensitive and overly suspicious here? Do we think she is possibly sincere in wanting to reconnect or do we think she just wants to be invited to the wedding?