Is someone else super stressed out planning the honeymoon?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@AnaA:  I am too! But I guess I’m stressed about everything haha.

For me it’s because of money. Belize has been on our minds for a while, and for us I think it would be so perfect, buuuutt….. now that I’m actually planning everything I’m finding it hard to picture ourselves spending thousands of extra dollars on top of the wedding! I have to keep reminding myself that I will regret it if we don’t do a honeymoon and may not get a chance to for a while. My parents didn’t go for a real honeymoon for like 20 years! Anyway, another option has come up where someone has offered a condo to us somewhere else and it would save us a lot of money.. so now I’m kinda like do we take the honeymoon we really want or do we just take the cheap one? Decisions!

What are you stressed about?

Post # 5
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2962 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I feel your pain girls! I have been married 6 months and we still haven’t taken our honeymoon! Grant it we would have taken it alot sooner if we didn’t have 3 kids but what people are doing now is taking a mini-moon and then waiting a few months and then taking their honeymoon. It’s also hard on deciding where to go! DH and I have been together almost 6 years and have NEVER taken a vacation together. We decided we are going to San Diego, CA during memorial day weekend. Not my ideal honeymoon but budget was also an issue for us and DH really wanted to go there. He has NEVER taken a vacation in his life! Poor him! So I really wanted something he really would enjoy and I’m going to enjoy it regardless because we will be together!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@AnaA:  Just tonight my FI and I switched what cruise we were on because of a sale (got a full refund from the other one) to a much nicer one but that meant planning all new shore excursions again. I am suchhhhhhh a perfectionist I almost had a breakdown because of course I had to make sure we picked “the right ones”

Post # 7
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3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Ugh, for some reason, I was SO stressed with picking where to go for our honeymoon!

We love traveling (especially me, lol), and it just seemed like such a HUUUGE thing to pick the one place to go for our honeymoon. Like, for the rest of your life, people will ask where you went on your honeymoon–there was too much pressure!

My FI ended up picking for us, which was awesome, as usually I’m the planner.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AnaA:  What part are you stressed about?

Is it because the wedding (HUGE event) and the honeymoon (usually a HUGE vacation) are usually so close together?

I am really high strung and an anxious traveler, so leaving for our honeymoon the day after the wedding was NOT an option for me. I could not imagine the days leading up to my wedding including wedding stuff AND honeymoon preparaton stuff.

Not to mention that I didn’t want to rush my wedding night and have to crawl out of bed early the next day to catch a plane, deal with luggage, etc.

So we planned out honeymoon for about a month and a half later. We got married 9/28 and we aren’t leaving for our honeymoon until 11/15. It’s actually pretty cool that we have some buffer time. We’ve had something to look forward to after all the wedding hype has died down.

Or is it just the little details? If this is the case, can you go to a travel agent? Yes, they charge a fee but IMO it’s totally worth it. And if you have AAA, they’re usually pretty affordable compared to independent agents.

If it’s flying/traveling in general …. I’m with ya! I’m terrified of flying and I hate dealing with security, luggage, passports, etc, etc. (shudder). I’m trying Xanax for the first time to help with the travel days. Keeping my fingers crossed that it helps!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The thought of planning an international trip so close to the wedding stressed us out (even though we’ve done it plenty of times before), so we decided on something close to home. A cabin in the woods, on a lake, in a tiny town with cute restaurants and art galleries. We just wanted to be alone and relax. It was the perfect thing and it cost SO little. We have many ideas for big trips in the future and will look forward to planning them without the added pressure of the wedding.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AnaA:  I see where you’re coming from. Sometimes when we take vacations (or even day trips) I feel like there’s pressure to make it perfect.

But if it’s going to be a short honeymoon anyway, you could always just do something low key. Just hang out in a hotel room together for 2 days lol. Stay in your PJS, eat junk food, and watch movies.

Since our honeymoon didn’t happen right away, we spent Sunday, Monday and Tuesday hanging out with family, snuggling in our bed or on the couch, going out to dinner, and one day we went to the zoo. Kept it low key but that was totally fine because we had been SO busy the days/weeks/months before the wedding.

Then once you relax, plan a more elaborate trip for a few months or so down the road when you are more relaxed and don’t feel so much pressure for it to be perfect.

Good luck!

Post # 13
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

me, me, me! It all stems from money with me too … sigh.

Post # 14
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432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@AnaA:  I think planning the honeymoon was as stressfull as some of the wedding planning. Though not necessarily due to finances for us. That might have made it easier to choose in a way, because there are so many options and research to do! All great problems to have, though, so enjoy it while you can. We went for a super secluded, romantic tropical location. So, now that it’s booked, I think we both are looking SO forward to it and constantly daydream about how magical and relaxing it will be.

Your very first adventure as husband and wife… How exciting is that?!?!?

 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Glad I’m not alone. FI likes laying on the beach, and I don’t really like the sun (I sound like a vampire) and I get antsy. So we both keep trying to make each other happy, and I have no idea what to do. I don’t even want to deal with it anymore!

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