(Closed) Is the bride always on the Left?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

At my FSIL’s wedding, she stood on the left during the ceremony. But once we got into the reception, she was on his right side as well as her side of the family. I don’t personally see anything wrong with this

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

At the reception you can sit wherever you want. No one will notice or care at that point. There is no tradition or rule stating what side of the room the guests sit on at the reception either.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

In Jewish ceremonies, the bride is always on the right.  And I’ve never heard of any particular requirements at the reception.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hmmm I was on the left at the ceremony, but during the reception I actually sat on the right. We had a sweetheart table and we just walked up to it and sat wherever. I really didn’t even think about if there was a certain side I should be on. No weird looks though, so it must have been normal for me to sit on the right side at the reception 🙂

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

May I suggest that you mix your guests at the reception, especially if one side of the room is nicer than the other.  Favoring one side of your new family is not a good way to start your marriage and it is good for your family and friends to meet each other.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Well, the bride is on different sides depending on religion (in Jewish ceremonies, for example, the bride stands on the right). Sit wherever you want at the reception!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

this “issue” never even occurred to me.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think it really matters what side on sit on at the reception…especially since it’s probably the switching of one spot to the right or left.  I would sit where you want to and no one would know any different.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

At the ceremony, you enter as an unmarried maiden, and there *is* a “bride’s side” and a “groom’s side”. By the reception you are a married matron, and you and your husband are joined into one untied family. There are no more sides.

Therefore (according to the old tradition) at the reception guests are seated mingled together. The hostess and her helpers are supposed to be introducing the various guests to one another and helping them create new acquaintanceships. Traditionally, people from both families are seated at the same table, introduced to one another, and left to develope those acquaintanceships.

Now, you don’t have to mingle the families if that doesn’t conform to your particular philosophy of marriage and hospitality, but it DOES mean that *tradition* will NOT enforce the notion of “bride’s side on the left”. Feel free to set up your tables as you see fit.

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