Is the engagement surprise factor gone?

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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25 posts
Newbee

@Benjeweler:  no way! My family reacted the same way and, wouldn’t you know, they were just as surprised and happy as I was when he proposed 🙂 don’t let it bother you,  some

people aren’t used to women having input on the ring. It is SO common! 

Post # 4
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343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Benjeweler:  This is what my fiancé and I did….

We sat down and had a talk about what we want and by the end of the conversation we were engaged. (No ring involved) I was able to pick exactly what I wanted and I’m even paying for half! Times have changed and will always be changing. I think what y’all did was make an adult decision and both of you are getting what you want. Husband and wife. If anyone wants to comment on the way it was handled, then maybe they are jealous for not getting the chance to design their ring. Great job. I want to see a pic of this ring! I’m happy for you

Post # 5
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435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Benjeweler:  My boyfriend and I picked out my ring together… and by that I mean, I did 92% he did maybe 8%…. haha

We are happy with our choice. He knows what to buy, so in the next six months..or less! I expect him to buy the ring, and a proposal…

I showed my mom the ring. She thinks it is gorgeous and thinks it is nice I got a say and we picked together. 🙂

I think it will still be a big surprise…I don’t know when or how he is gonna propose. And I haven’t seen the ring in person…

Post # 9
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1216 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Benjeweler:  I don’t think so! Me and my SO are in a similar situation. We’ve been together for 3 years and have not only talked about marriage but picked out an ering and started planning our wedding. My mom and my sister have both kind of made comments making it seem like it will be less special when he proposes (I don’t know when he will, just that it will be soon and what the ring will look like). I don’t care about the surprise so much as making a decision together to commit to each other for life. It’s a bummer when people make you feel like your way of doing things makes this a less important event in your life.

I say do things your way! If you are both happy at the end of the day that is what matters! 🙂

Post # 10
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435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Benjeweler:  To be 110% honest, I don’t know if he would have picked what I like… I am really picky… Come to find out, he is too! He doesn’t like a lot of rings. Luckily we agreed on “the one”. Simple. round. 6 prong!!!! 🙂

I want my forever to ring to be my style. I don’t expect my man to pick out my clothes, or make up. At least with no direction… 

I have no regrets about the way we are doing it. 

I will still have the surprise of a lifetime when he proposes. I can’t wait! 🙂

Post # 14
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1216 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Benjeweler:  <3 Moissanite! I can’t wait to get engaged officially. I know it will be special no matter what because it means i get to spend the rest of my life with the best guy I know!

Post # 15
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774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Benjeweler:  Absolutely not! My FI is a wonderful, truly great guy. I would trust him with anything except for fashion choices. Fortunately he agreed and said, “you’re the one wearing it, so I want you to love it.” When we first started ring shopping, I told a few select family and friends about what we were doing, but most people didn’t know. The surprise was in when he asked and how he asked. If I had to do it all over again I wouldn’t have changed anything. I think he felt good about doing it that way as well. 

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