Is the groom's family invited to the bridal shower??

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Who should be invited?
    Bride's friends and family : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Bride's family/friends and groom's aunts/cousins : (49 votes)
    91 %
    Bride's family/friends and groom's aunts : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 2
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    kapalua67:  I invited all the aunts and cousins that I had actually MET.  I think that really only came to 5 or 6 people more than the initial list with his mom, stepmom, and sisters.

    Post # 3
    4963 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    kapalua67:  I would invite them if you’ve met them! Even if youre not super close – definitely include them. They don’t have to come if they don’t want to. 

    Post # 4
    42135 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would ask your FMIL who she thinks should be invited from her side of the family.

    Post # 5
    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Fourth Presbyterian Church, Chicago, IL & Cheney Mansion, Oak Park, IL

    kapalua67:  I asked his mom what to do, and she said to invite them all. I’ve met many but not all of them, and I’m fine with them not coming. I think if you’ve met them its completely fine and wouldn’t look gift grabby at all.

    Post # 6
    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Anyone can be invited to the shower as long as they’re invited to the wedding, too.

    Post # 7
    330 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I invited all the females that were invited to the wedding that live in town. I figured that way no one would get their feelings hurt. i’m not going to be upset if they dont show up if I don’t know them.

    Post # 8
    2792 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would talk to your FMIL about who is typically invited in his family.  I would have invited my FI’s aunts to mine, but it ended up where FMIL surprised me by saying her friends wanted to throw a shower. 


    Post # 9
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would limit it to people you plan to invite to the wedding. Other than that, I agree with PP advice to talk to FMIL.

    Post # 10
    1327 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My shower had his side as well, all the aunts, cousins, and some of FMILs friends that she wanted to invite.  It was most of the women invited to the wedding.  I really had nothing to do with the guest list, those were just who FMIL wanted to invite.  I’ve met 99% of them before (there were 1 or 2 out of town people, but I at least knew of them).

    Many showers I’ve been to have been this way.  In other families they;ll have multiple showers for the different groups.

    Post # 11
    1864 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I would invite them; they’re going to be your future family members. 

    And I don’t see one thing wrong with a mother wanting to throw her daughter a bridal shower! That rule that one shouldn’t is so dumb. 

    Post # 12
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I invited my DH’s aunts and cousins. I had met them all before. In your case I would at least invite the ones I’ve met.

    Post # 13
    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    To answer the title: Yes.

    Post # 14
    6969 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I invited all the women that were invited to the wedding. I didn’t want anyone to feel like they were excluded, even though I was sure many of them would not make the trip.

    Post # 15
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    You can invite anyone who is invited to the wedding.

    That being said, though, my mom is throwing my shower (because that’s the tradition where my mom is from). I talked to them about who they wanted me to invite since they’re the ones paying for the shower and more people = more money. She said was comfortable with FI’s immediate family being invited (mom, sister, grandmother) but not extended family. I’m glad I asked her since she’s the one who is paying. FI’s mom isn’t super happy about it, but I’m just ignoring it.

    When I was a bridesmaid, we threw the bride a shower and she asked us to invite her whole family and then just her fiance’s mom and sisters. Her FMIL threw a second shower for all of her fiance’s family and friends to attend. 

    So really – up to you! It’s okay to invite whoever you want to invite from the wedding guest list, but I would definitely run it past FMIL and your mom.

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