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Is the guest book a must? I wish people would stop giving them to me!

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    EvieMarie    February 2011  

    I'm one of the least sentimental people around.  People keep giving me guest books and I don't even want to have one at the reception!  What to do?  Do you have a guest book, maybe more appropriately: do you NEED a guestbook? I have a wide variety of designs available! 

     
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    whfields    June 3, 2010   wedding in Florida

    hmmm...I don't think a guest book is entirely necessary, but it is a nice thing to have.  Afterall, your family and friends probably want to leave you happy messages that you'll enjoy reading someday!  I wasn't going to have one originally because we are doing a small 20 person destination wedding at Disney...but instead decided I wanted one, just not the traditional kind...we are going to use a hardcover Disney fairy tale book as my guestbook - my guests will sign the margins with any well wishes and we can keep the book as a keepsake for us and any future kids :)

    Maybe you can do something alternative as a guest book and it'll mean more to you! Hah we certainly don't need one though...try selling them on ebay!

     
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    okqueenbee    Dec 4, 2009   OKC

    We didn't use a guestbook. We had 2 different sizes of mat boards (to go inside picture frames) that people signed.

    That way, it is both sentimental & useful (because I'm sure you will want to hang some wedding photos around your house :)

     
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    EvieMarie    February 2011  

    I guess people expect one?  Why don't they just leave their nice message in a card for us? 

     
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    whfields    June 3, 2010   wedding in Florida

    the mat board thing is a great idea.  We plan on having one for our at home reception when we get back for friends/family to sign that weren't at the wedding.  They look really cool with your wedding picture in it!

     
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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    We're not doing a guest book b/c I wouldn't have a clue what to ever do with it other than set it somewhere to collect dust.  We dropped some cute postcards into our OOT bags and asked them to mail one to us with a memory of their trip to our DW.  Doubt I'll see even 20 of them, but at least with those I can throw in a photobook...or something.

     
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    crayon78    October 2009  

    We did the same thing as Miss Sapphire.  We got back maybe half of them.  I don't know if others got lost in the mail or were never sent.

     
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    MrsK2be    November 15, 2008   Ohio

    The answer to your question is: NO.  You do not have to have a guestbook.  To get married, you only need yourselves, a marriage license and an ordained person.  Everything else is just extra!  However, even if you don't want a guest BOOK per se, you might want to consider some other medium to store your guests names and messages for you.

    We had a very large framed (engagement) picture with a matte for our guests to sign.  The reason I love this idea so much (no matter how played out it may be) is because this amazing photo and matte with loving notes from all our friends and family now hangs above our mantle.  I see it every day and have WONDERFUL memories each time I look at it!

     

     
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    rosychicklet    September 27, 2008   Boston, MA

    I think traditionally the guest book was a place to record the guests and their addresses.

    But you definitely don't need one.  Just pass on the ones you've gotten (or sell them).

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    you don't need a guestbook. but if you already have so many, why not use one? we made a photobook of pictures from when we started dating up to when we got engaged. i really haven't put together an album since then anyway, so i figure now i have one, killing two birds with one stone.

     
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    skibobrown    July 31, 2010   CA (wedding in Bar Harbor, ME)

    I'm with you EvieMarie.  For some reason I'm just really not into the idea of a guestbook.  I feel like we would rarely go back and look at it.  Our guests will all have the time to congratulate us (in person) and send their best wishes *without* a guest book.  Do I really need some book sitting around my house that has 100 different messages that all say "Congrats!  Best of luck in your marriage!"

    Answer: No.  Not really. 

    Maybe this makes us unsentimental bride freaks, but I just wanted to back you up and say I'm also pretty anti-guest book.

     
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    EvieMarie    February 2011  

    @skibo--AWESOME!  So glad I have a partner in guestbook hating!   I never know what to write in those anyways! I try to be original but probably come out looking ridiculous!  Screw the guest book!  That's 8 guestbooks going into my garage-sale pile!

     
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    petal dream    May 22, 2010  

    I totally hate guest books too...The worse is being a guest book attendant, I was one once and have the people flat out ignored me, so it's not like everyone signs it anyway....I felt like Miranda on Sex in the City...

    I would put them up on ebay or craig's list cuz, or you could always regift them (that's probably how you ended up with so many anyway)

     
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    sweetkate    August 29, 2009   San Jose, CA

    Instead of a guest book we had a wish bowl, I believe one of the bees blogged about it but I can't remember who....

    Anyway, we had cards where the guests could write what they wanted, things such as wishes, predictions and advice. There were some really funny ones from our friends and some really great advice from our relatives. We put them all into a scrap book. It looks pretty nice and its different than your average guest book.

     
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    mandalee0624    October 2, 2010  

    I'm a guestbook hater... when will I ever glance back over illegible signatures? I'm sure many enjoy the sentimental value, but its just not for me. :)

    I suppose I'll go the photo frame route if anything... I've also had a friend do a cookbook! Is the guest book a must? I wish people would stop giving them to me! :  wedding 41285768 9225657 Thumbnail

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    Most stuff at weddings isare optional, contrary to popular belief. Nearly everything at the reception is optional. If you don't want a guestbook, whether it's a book or a photo matte, then don't have one. No one can force you to use one at your wedding. Some people like to have a record of who attended but there is no law saying you must. You can always take them back to a local bookstore or wherever they may have come from and exchange them for something else.

     

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