- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Basically H cosigned on BIL’s cell phone plan which is $160/month total. H mentioned that BIL asked about it and I kept advising against it. Then I found a letter in the mail addressed to H but it was not the network he uses and I asked him about it…he grabbed the letter out of my hand and said it was nothing, then later I read the letter after it was opened and saw that he did end up cosigning.
I confronted him about it and he said he already told me that he did it, which I think I would have remembered because I would have made a big stink about it. It’s been weeks since I found out but now I still don’t feel better about the situation. I told H that if BIL fails to pay his bills that H will have to to pay for it all and he said that’s not true. So I want to see the contract…he must have a copy right? I think he’ll just get annoyed if I ask and say that I don’t trust his judgment but I don’t.
BIL has already lost his phone and I guess he got it replaced and his girlfriend (SIL) broke her phone. The hilarious thing is that the only reason that H cosigned was because BIL and MIL were on the outs and she would n ot cosign for him, so H took it upon himself to do it. Now MIL and BIL are on speaking terms again and everyone thinks H is too hard on MIL, who always goes out of her way to say that H is not a good son and that he’s not there for his family. SIL even trashes him. And while we don’t deserve the world, we did let BIL live with us for a few months and helped him get back on his feet. I always tell H that his family will never respect him or what he does for them and to stop caring and stop trying to help them. His mom has money, she just bought a condo and a new car but chose not to help BIL without feeling guilty. H and I live paycheck to paycheck sometimes and I’m pregnant and it does make me really sad that he would do this to us for a family that doesn’t even care about him that much.
Why did BIL need a smart phone? He could have easily got one that was pay as you go. Aside from that whole stint of H letting BIL live with us a few months ago, I find that H and I are really drifting apart and he either doesn’t get it yet or doesn’t care. I guess it’s probably the former. Every time I’d criticize H for helping BIL too much, he’d act like I was tossing BIL out on the streets to die. H isn’t even 25 yet and BIL is almost 30. He should never have tried to do any of this and even though BIL has moved out, I’m still getting over the whole thing and this cell phone thing doesn’t make things any better.