- 5 years ago
I’m still living at home (for now) until I can get a well-paying and steady job. My FI and I are planning on moving in together.
His parents don’t really approve of us living together before marriage and they haven’t been afraid to voice that opinion multiple times.
They’re not really the type to show their anger, so I highly doubt they’ll say anything rude/mean to us when it happens. However if they plan on helping with the wedding… I don’t want them to change their mind because of this. We can use all the help we can get.
I don’t think I can convince them to change their beliefs about this, but is there a way to tell them that we’re not going to break up or get pregnant just because we moved in before marriage?
I’m kind of a really rude person, so I’m afraid that if I start to say something, it’ll be really cruel. It really grinds my gears that they’re.. well.. kind of hypocritical. I think everyone is slightly, but it’s kind of unfair. Their daughter got pregnant at 19 and there are 3 possible fathers. When this happened, I didn’t hear a WORD about how they were upset and sex before marriage and blah blah blah. They also don’t hear a thing when she spends nights at her current boyfriend’s apartment.
Yet we bring up moving in and they’re all “OH MY NO NOT BEFORE MARRIAGE THAT WOULD GO AGAINST SO MUCH.”
What the hell? What’s the difference between spending a few nights and living together?
Is there a way I can say something NICELY? I am so mean!
Oh and by the way, we are both still virgins. This isn’t my biggest issue but I’m pretty sure that if we have avoided temptation for this long, we’ll be all right! We’re not against any types of BC either.