Post # 1
My husband I loved our honeymoon which was at DisneyWorld in FL. ANyway, we plan on going back in 2015 and we found out that several people would like to go with us. 2 couples and a cousin and a aunt. Maybe even my other brother.
We will be staying off property because of the great place we found, so no buses to the parks. Anyway, it just occurred to me that is it possible that all of us will want to do the same things at the same time, the same park, etc?
My husband and I will be renting a car and my Aunt will have hers because she lives in FL and will be driving to Disney from her home.
Not only do we want to do Disney parks but we also want to visit the gulf coast, do a swamp boat ride and parasail. What if they dont want to do this?? I dont want to dictate what they should do, nor would I want to be dictated what to on my vacation.
My plan was to say something like this, ‘We will be doing this and this on these days, you are more then welcome to join us’. And then leave it up to them if they want to join us or go on their own for the day.
But we will only have 2 cars amoung us. Hence the reason why Im posting this. I dont want anybody in the group to do something that they dont want to do. Should I suggest that at least one other couple rent a car too? That way there are more options if people dont want to join us?? How would you do this? Or should I just chill out?? Am I over thinking this??
Sometimes group trips are hard. EVERYBODY has an opinion on what to do and where to go. What would you do?
Thanks bees. 🙂
Post # 3
Maybe before it gets too late, you can make a rough itinerary of what you are planing to do? Unless both you and your Aunt go to the same place, people might have to get their own car anyway because that is a lot of people who are going to be traveling.
Post # 4
I don’t think there’s a “secret,” but I’ve traveled with groups of friends many times over the years and I do think it’s important to just be flexible. Let everyone do whatever they want and have certain points that you can plan on everyone meeting up together. There’ve been many times on trips I’ve taken that a few people have gone zip-lining while a few others have gone to the beach or shopping or sightseeing for example.
Once you know who exactly is going with you, send out a group email asking everyone for suggestions on what they would like to do. In that same email, throw out the the ideas you have and tell them what your plans are. Just say “DH and I would really like to go to X, Y, and Z, if anyone is interested in joining us.” The key is setting the mood for a flexible, relaxed trip before you even get there–that way there is no expectation of 24/7 together time and no one will wind up disappointed or angry if your schedules don’t always line up exactly.
Another thing that always works well is to have dinner reservations most nights already set up. That way the group can split up during the day, everyone can do their own thing, but by dinner time everyone knows where to be. That way you get to spend your evening with your family/friends and catching up on all the events of the day.
Post # 5
True. I want this to be a fun trip. I will suggest my brother rent a car too. Make it more easier on everyone. Plus Im sure that others will want to do something that I havent thought of yet and having another car will simplify things. So we should have at least 3 cars amoung us.
Also if you rent a car, no one can drive it unless you put their name on the rental agreement with an extra cost. FYI, because I didnt know this earlier, I ended up driving the whole honeymoon. We didnt know we had to put his name on the agreement, and had to pay extra to do it., etc. I dont like how this will kep a couple people from driving(you would feel trapped where you are while everyone else can drive). Im thinking of putting my friends names on our rental agreement so that they can drive too. Good idea?
Thank goodness the trip isnt until 2015. I like to get these tiny details sorted out.
Oh and if anyone is wondering why we decided to stay off property, we found a nice place that has a living room AND kitchen! So worth it!
Thanks everyone. 🙂
Post # 6
I recently went on a cruise with 9 other people – me, my FI, four friends, and the parents/brother/sister of one of the friends. We met/emailed several times before the trip to discuss what we wanted to do. All of us did some research so we’d have a nice variety of options to choose from, and as a group we just decided what we’d do on all 10 days. It worked really well – knowing what we were doing in advance helped us relax and enjoy ourselves.
So, start by emailing everybody who’s thinking about going. It’s OK for you to take charge, because you’re the ones who planned the trip in the first place. Make a list of all of the things the two of you want to do, as well as the days you’d do them, and ask who would like to join in on which activities. This will help you figure out if somebody else needs to rent a car so people can do different things. You can also start making reservations for activities like the swamp boats and parasailing once you have a body count.
As for activities within the park, make sure everybody has a cell phone so you can keep in touch if you split up. Set up designated times and places to meet throughout the day so you didn’t lose track of each other if people go off to do their own thing.
Post # 7
@Phamnomenon: Good idea! Thanks.