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Yes, my FMIL offered to buy me wedding lingerie. I politely declined trying not to make a severely weirded out face. Someone told me though that my reaction was silly, because this is a tradition. I'm just curious if anyone has ever heard of any such tradition. It has to be the weirdest thing that has happened to me in a while!
I hope not!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have never heard of this before and goodness lets hope it doesn't catch on over here in California.
Someone told me though that my reaction was silly
you can add my reaction to the silly club also because it earned an ewwhh from me, i wouldnt want my MIL picking out the panties my husband is going to tear off my body with his teeth! :)
@eloping: Ahahaha! Yeah, that's about what I was thinking at the time. I think she means well and just likes to shop, but, for serious?!
My jaw dropped when I read this, I certainly hope it is not a tradition! And if it is, it is one I will skip!
Ha, I've never heard of this (and I hope Mr.ND's ma hasn't, either). I don't particularly feel like handing over my measurements and having anyone other than him and I knowing what I'll be wearing once we're married, whether it's under-the-dress-lingerie or under-the-sheets-lingerie.
@Phofe2774: I think maybe this person was thinking about lingerie showers or something. I believe I've heard of such a thing.
It could be in some circles...my (very conservative) MIL gifted me wedding night lingerie at my bridal shower. It was a surprise to open, that's for sure! It was already awkward, and then my friend blurted out "Don't tell J it's from his MOM" and I felt awful because she got offended...oh so very awkward.
Never heard of this tradition!!! My soon to be mother in law and i are really close, we go shopping together and stuff like that, i spend a good amount of time with her. We went shopping one day and there was a lingerie store next door, shes like "lets just look for fun" OHH NOO, the store was more like a sex shop then lingerie!! it was so embarrassing but i didnt want to be rude so i made one little loop in the front of the store, acted like i was looking at the minimal about of lingerie they had and bolted out the door!!! LOL
@Mrs. Guinness: Oh my god! I feel for you so much. If that had happened to me in public I probably would have busted out laughing. If it is a custom, then what an unusual one!
I might find it a bit weird, but at the end of the day... knock yourself out, I love lingerie, and if I don't love what she picked I smile, say thanks and never wear it. Big whoop.
It's certainly not a tradition in my family.
Maybe she was thinking of the wedding nightgown and pegnoir set that was tradiitional when she got married.
@KristenGotMarried: Well, she's a sweetheart so I wouldn't get angry if she did it without asking, but it would be bundled into the goodwill collection box as fast as possible, I think.
NEVER heard of that before. That would be beyond weird!!!! My FMIL getting me underwear that my future hubby will see???? TOTAL CREEP FEST!!!!
Ha, no, never heard of this one! My MIL gave us a quilt...not quite the same thing!
Well just playing devil's advocate - she is a woman, she has had sex and knows you will too and she may see it as part of your trousseau. My mother provided me with all sorts of pretty lingerie 20 years ago when I got married as part of my wedding trouseau and some of it was so exquisite I still wear it to my FI delight.
So if you see it as a woman to woman gift and stop looking at her as a "Mom" for a few minutes do you feel differently about it?
Also do you hope to still be a woman to your husband in 30 ish years because that will be you someday - just saying
@unixfairy: Sorry, I didn't mean to come off as disrespectful to her and it had nothing whatsoever to do with her age (although we do have very different tastes, but I'm not sure that's due to a generational gap). I'm glad you were able to enjoy the gift and it didn't bother you at all.
see it as a woman to woman gift
i dont want my best friends to buy my underwear either :)
@cirrus: Now I do draw the line between crotchless panties and pretty nightgown if you know what I mean. But if she just wanted to buy you something that was pretty and not ummm playclothes I guess is what I meant.
But no I would not want anyone but my FI buying me the really sexy stuff
This thread is hilarious!
I never heard of the tradition, but MIL did buy me wedding night lingerie. It was a beautiful and elegant set. She included a bottle of Chanel #5-- the real parfum, not eau de toilette. I did wear it on my wedding night, although I really don't think DH cared.
@unixfairy: Hee hee. Good point! I suppose I should have given her the benefit of the doubt! I think it was really just the fact she said "wedding lingerie" that threw me off. In a different context I might not have found it so odd.
Part of why I declined, though is just that my fiance is absolutely unimpressed with lingerie, except that recently he expressed an interest in a particular item which I've actually already purchased for myself. Also, it's a surprise and my fiance was there when she made the offer.
Anyway, I guessI sounded a little mean about it all, which was not my intent. She's the sweetest lady ever. We just don't often see eye to eye on matters of personal taste, because I'm not a girly girl at all and I think she mourns this, because she has only sons.
@Georgia Bee: My fiance is the same. He will say I look nice if I'm all dolled up, but if I wore anything remotely 'costume' sexy he'd probably just think it was kind of funny.
See, that sounds very nice when you put it like that. So now I feel I was probably being silly!
Um, ewwwww! Never heard of it! Hope it doesn't catch on. A gift certificate to a lingerie store might be okay, but it seems really creepy for FMIL to choose your wedding dainties! 
Oh gosh I hope not! My FMIL would have me wearing 18th century doll's clothing. O.O My reaction would also be in the silly department, "Is this underwear... or birth control?" I don't know how my FH would feel about tearing something off his mom picked out just for me. I have a feeling he'd be weirded out though... but that's just my mother in law.
Yeah, that's just weird. It's just the whole idea of your MIL knowing what you're going to be wearing and thinking about what her son is going to be doing with you later in the evening. Just gross. I think of it sort of along the same lines where you don't want to think of your parents having sex, you always don't want your parents/MIL thinking of YOU having sex!
Still a sweet gesture and I actually think it's kind of cute but definitely awkward!
ETA: I have a very good relationship with my MIL and absolutely love her, but still, no.
@SimplyChic11: Hee hee! Something like this? I suppose I should count my blessings when it comes to FMIL's taste then, because I don't think she's that much of a prude. :)
Ew, I don't think that's a tradition... and if it is it should end because that's unsettling. Now if she offered to give me MONEY to buy the lingerie I would take it :) She knows I'm going to be having sex regardless so I might as well. But I'm not shopping around with her, and I'm not accepting lingerie from her. Ugh.
I don't think its a tradition but I don't think it's out of the norm. The FMIL's have boughten the brides to be lingerie at the showers I've attended.
My aunt bought her FDIL very sexy black lacey and silky lingerie. The set she bought her was way sexier that anything she had received. We were all oohing and aahing and someone comments "Just don't tell future husband his mom picked that out!" <--- mood killer :)
That's creepy - if that IS a tradition, we should all take a stand to end it...
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