Post # 1
I have been engaged for almost a year now and am feeling the pressure to get married. Is there a “norm” or set time after engagement to get married? I just feel that its up to each persons situation and not based on family pressures. Love to hear some insight on this.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
Some people get married super soon after there engagement and others have a long one.
question: (just out of couriosity) Why haven’t you set a date? even if it is in 2020?
Post # 4
We waited a year and a half before fixing a rough date. Ours was set when we felt we had save enough to afford one.
Post # 5
I think it varies, but people will always share what they think is best with you – even if you don’t ask for their opinion 🙂 I have friends who set a date and got married three months after their engagement and know others who waited two years or more. FI and I have been engaged for three weeks and knew we wanted to get married next summer, so we’ve set a date already.. but people were asking me the night of our engagement if we had a date and plan! Sorry for any pressure people are putting on you
Post # 6
@TonyRocks69: It is really up to each individual couple when they want to get married. I’m sorry you are feeling pressured – maybe your family is just curious so they keep asking?
However, I’m one of those people that don’t really understand super long engagements (2+ years) or engagements with no attempt to set a date. IMO, engagements are when you are actively planning your wedding.
Post # 7
Nope. I knew I wanted to get married in April and I wanted a long engagement to be able to save up and have things the way I wanted because I was so indecisive yet picky. Since we were engaged Christmas 2011, April 2012 was out of the picture. I wanted April 2014 but mom and DH didnt want to wait that long so April 2013 it was. After that it was a matter of what the venue had available in April.
Post # 8
@TonyRocks69: whenever you are ready. i’ve known engagements to be as short as 3 months to as long as 5 years.
Post # 9
@TonyRocks69: I assume that most people will get married within about a year of your engagement. My engagement will be for 18 months. Some people think we’re really, really dragging things out but it works for us.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@TonyRocks69: Most people get married within a year or two of getting engaged. If you’re going to have a longer engagement just pass the information around by word of mouth or encourage someone to throw you an engagement party so you can let your friends and family know. But there is no actual requirement regarding the length of an engagement.
Post # 11
There are absolutely NO rules on how long a couple should take to set a date and get married. You should enjoy being engaged for as long as you like!
It is truly amazing to me that people put pressure on couples about ANYTHING.
Post # 12
It’s totally up to you. We have just about a three year engagement. it’s been about a year and a half now and we just set a date.
Post # 13
Not really. My fiance and I have been engaged since 2005 (no joke!). He wanted to finish school before we got married. Since he is a brain cancer survivor with short-term memory issues, it has taken longer than normal. He is going to be graduating either this spring or summer so we finally have set a rough date!
I’m down to venue finalists so once that is done, we will have a date. We’re aiming for 10/10/15.
Post # 13
Thanks for all your comments….and yes, its really up to our situation, but damn! Everywhere I go..I get the same question “So when is the big day…when u finally getting married”…etc..etc. .. and the mother-in-law is the worst…LOL. I finally stepped up and we have it planned for August of this year. It has been quite the life changer every since. Wish me luck….