(Closed) Is there a way to plan a wedding that WON’T look dated?

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: Do you think that it's possibly to plan a wedding that won't look dated in ten years?
    Absolutely! : (12 votes)
    19 %
    Maybe in a select few cases. : (14 votes)
    22 %
    Not a chance : (37 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 3
    2588 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    No–but it won’t look dated in a negative way (which is what I’m assuming you’re trying to avoid) if you pick a date other than “modern” to work with. We’re going totally 40s-themed so aside from a few modern touches (iPod instead of DJ, my glasses, etc.), you hopefully won’t really be able to tell. Damask is pretty trendy right now though, so that’s where the challenge lies–to avoid trends and fads. That being said, I think your wedding will be lovely. And I love that dress!

    Post # 4
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I like what you picked ,,, things just seem to go in a circle, when its out, a few years later its back in ,, but going with black and simple should do the trick ,, but what about your dress? lol

    Post # 5
    2006 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Everything will always look dated. Even “classic” weddings like Grace Kelley’s are dated, but that isn’t a bad thing!

    Post # 7
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    i think something timless like black and white are always great!!! now if it was like neon green and orage then yes you may have a problem!!!

    Post # 8
    798 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    That’s what black & white pictures are for 🙂

    Post # 9
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I voted that it’s not possible before I read your question.  I think any wedding is going to look like it’s of the era that it happened in, even if you go with classic/timeless things.  Personally I think it’s great.  I want to look back at my photos and be like, “wow, 2010 was so long ago”, and I don’t even mind if my kids make fun of me. 

    That said, I don’t think there’s any risk of being dated before you even get to the gate.  Assuming you’re not completely set on everything you’ve picked, you’ll be able to make changes right up to the end. 

    Post # 10
    1570 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    It’s completely possible. Avoid fads and trends as much as possible, especially taking time to consider which fads will seem silly in a few years’ time. When you make a style decision, consider whether it would have seemed normal at a wedding in a different decade, or whether it’s a trend that has emerged as a surge in popularity in recent months or years. Much of a wedding can be made to look beautiful without latching onto fads which are designed primarily to grab attention now, and which will simply look absurd in a few decades. Go for simplicity as a default if you’re concerned. As for the decor you described, it seems very classic, except for the damask which is very popular right now, but has such timeless appeal that it’s probably fine too.

    Post # 11
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    When I got married the first time around (in 1977), one of the essential and apparently eternal rules was that a wedding dress should not be strapless, because that was “tarty.”  Thirty years later, it is hard to find a dress that is not strapless.

    It really is not possible to predict in advance what will change, or how much.  However, the fact is that you will always be more aware of what is in style than your guests will be, unless they are planning their own weddings.  I once (after my wedding) saw a post that said the type of wedding dress I wore for my wedding in 2009 was a style that was already dated.  But when I thought about it, I realized that the last wedding that most of my guests had been to was in 2006–before that style was “in,” much less already “out.”

    I would wait until closer to the date to make major purchases (your dress, Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, etc.), if you think that many of your guests go to several weddings a year and/or are planning their own weddings.  However, that will not stop you from gathering inspiration now.  And if your guests are not in that position, it shouldn’t matter at all.

    Post # 12
    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Everything looks dated at some point and that is beyond anyone’s control, therefore people don’t worry about that because they are fully aware that there is nothing anyone can do to prevent it. Have the wedding that fits your personality and tastes and don’t worry about whether it will look dated in a year or 10.

    Post # 13
    43 posts
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Everything has its time and place. I don’t think being dated necessarily is a bad thing, but wedding trends do come and go.

    Post # 14
    721 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think ALL weddings look dated in 5+ years.  It’s just natural ebb and flow.  Even “classic” weddings of the 40’s do look dated.  Yes, they are classic and the dresses still look great, but to me, “dated” means being able to look at the photo and know when it was taken.  Therefore, yes, the 40’s weddings are dated.

    I planned 2+ years in advance as well and while the styles haven’t changed that much, my mind has.  I’d suggest not buying anything until closer to the wedding so you don’t change your mind.  I have had to re-purchase my wedding earrings, shoes and several other accessories because I change my mind often.

    Love your bridesmiad dresses BTW!

    Post # 15
    1079 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think most weddings will look dated, but some will look beautiful and classic while others will look outdated and funny. Have your bridesmaids already bought their dresses? I’m afraid the bow in front might look dated, though I really like the dress otherwise. Think about what is “in” right now then avoid that – cupcakes, candy bars, strong color combos, birdcage veil. For your dress I’d look for silk or another natural fabric, princess seams, clean neckline, a-line skirt – lace is good. Admitedly I’m describing my own dress on that one, but I got so many compliments, and I think it’s a dress from ’06 – but, Christos still has it posted on their website four years later. I wore a vintage dress for the rehearsal dinner and got lots of compliments on it too – similar style made it classic.

    Post # 16
    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think you’ll go crazy trying to achieve that – and it’s impossible anyway.

    Even if you choose more “timeless” looks for you and the wedding party – the guests’ clothes will be an obvious give away in your pics.

    The best we can do as brides is to avoid extreme trends/fads – but I really believe everyone’s wedding will look “a little 2010” when we look back in ten years.  And is that really so bad?

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