Is there a way to register for wedding day expenses? (Think honeymoon registry)

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
206 posts
Helper bee

You want the guests to essentially pay for the wedding?  Why aren’t you having a wedding you can afford without asking the guests to pay for it?


Post # 4
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh no. This will not be good.


Post # 5
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@tanya4285:  I don’t support this personally, but I suppose that you could create a honeymoon registry with experiences and rather than do the experiences, just use the cash. Seems skeezy though. You could also use a website like Again, I would really recommend hosting a wedding you can afford. 

Post # 6
6356 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if you don’t register, people will more than likely give you cash or checks as gifts.

asking for money outright is rude.

Post # 7
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would just plan a wedding within your means. I would be a little put off if I was encouraged to gift your wedding day stuff. 

Post # 8
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Plan something that you can afford. Don’t ask your guests to pay for your wedding. That is just rude.

Post # 9
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@tanya4285:  I agree with the other bees – asking your guests to pay for your wedding day is just plain rude! If I were you, I would plan a wedding you can afford.

Post # 11
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think the best you could do is charge your wedding expenses and pay them off with wedding gifts after the wedding.  Or just take out a loan.  Asking the guests for money for the wedding won’t go over well. 

Post # 13
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The search function will bring up so many budget wedding ideas. What is your wedding budget?

If worse comes to worse, you can get eloped and have a party at a restaurant. 

Post # 14
1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yah, threads like these never go well.

OP, if you want cash instread of gifts, just skip the registry and most people will give cash.  

Post # 15
5087 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

You can’t ask guests for wedding essentials. 

Post # 16
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

A lot of people will give cash, especially if you don’t register.  I see no problem with using cash gifts to pay off the wedding–once a gift is given, it’s no one’s business what it’s used for.

Something like a really nice wedding album is waaaaay out of my “wedding” budget, but I might turn a few hundred dollars of cash gifts into an album after the event.

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