Post # 1
We have a tight budget and are not receiving help from anyone. Because we have been living together for 6 years now we don’t really need much for our home so instead I would love some help paying for photography for example because that means more to us. Is there a nice way to suggest this to people or a way to register for it so people can give money online instead of buying gifts?
Post # 3
You want the guests to essentially pay for the wedding? Why aren’t you having a wedding you can afford without asking the guests to pay for it?
Post # 4
Oh no. This will not be good.
Post # 5
@tanya4285: I don’t support this personally, but I suppose that you could create a honeymoon registry with experiences and rather than do the experiences, just use the cash. Seems skeezy though. You could also use a website like gofundme.com. Again, I would really recommend hosting a wedding you can afford.
Post # 6
if you don’t register, people will more than likely give you cash or checks as gifts.
asking for money outright is rude.
Post # 7
I would just plan a wedding within your means. I would be a little put off if I was encouraged to gift your wedding day stuff.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Plan something that you can afford. Don’t ask your guests to pay for your wedding. That is just rude.
Post # 9
@tanya4285: I agree with the other bees – asking your guests to pay for your wedding day is just plain rude! If I were you, I would plan a wedding you can afford.
Post # 10
@QueenOfSerendip: Ha ha ha. You are so right.
Post # 11
I think the best you could do is charge your wedding expenses and pay them off with wedding gifts after the wedding. Or just take out a loan. Asking the guests for money for the wedding won’t go over well.
Post # 12
@QueenOfSerendip: I LOL’d loudly. At work.
Post # 13
The search function will bring up so many budget wedding ideas. What is your wedding budget?
If worse comes to worse, you can get eloped and have a party at a restaurant.
Post # 14
Yah, threads like these never go well.
OP, if you want cash instread of gifts, just skip the registry and most people will give cash.
Post # 15
You can’t ask guests for wedding essentials.
Post # 16
A lot of people will give cash, especially if you don’t register. I see no problem with using cash gifts to pay off the wedding–once a gift is given, it’s no one’s business what it’s used for.
Something like a really nice wedding album is waaaaay out of my “wedding” budget, but I might turn a few hundred dollars of cash gifts into an album after the event.