Post # 1
I know for sure what we are NOT doing! A unity candle!
In college I was a bridesmaid and my friend (bride) had just gotten some lovely acrylic nails and wasn’t used to them and when they lit the candle she accidentally set her nail on fire!
Only us (bm’s) and maybe one groomsman noticed! She blew the nail tip out really quickly but there was a burned spot on her nail and she covered that hand with her bouquet for the rest of the evening (smart girl!)!
So no candles for us to light during ceremony!
Post # 3
We’re not doing a unity candle or a sand ceremony, father/daughter dance, mother/son dance, etc. It’s hard when you don’t really have family.
Post # 4
For the ceremony, I’m not walking around him 7 times. It’s a jewish thing, rabbi said i didn’t have to, and since i want it as short as possible i feel that i would just feel the staring people and go weak in the knees during this walk. I’d rather just get into the ceremony. For the reception, we’re pretty much not doing anything. It’s just going to be a dinner, no dancing so no first dances, bouquet toss, garter toss, cake cutting, no big entrance or exits. we want to keep it low key.
Post # 5
I’m doing the bouquet toss and it’s going straight for my bff! She’s been divorced for over five years now! She was married but for a brief time and has an amazing boyfriend of over four years now and he needs to get his act togetha!
That girl is going to be handed the bouquet if she ok’s for me to do that (give him a hint)!
Post # 6
We are not doing the bouquet toss or the garter toss. And maybe not doing the unity candle. I’m so indecisive about it. I need to make up my mind soon!
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
We’re leaving out the bouquet/garter tosses & the unity candle, and I’m walking down the aisle by myself. We’re also doing an online rsvp.
Post # 8
We’re planning on changing the bouquet throwing tradition. Because all my ladies will be married by next summer and I am the youngest of all my cousins, there will be less than ten single ladies at my wedding. Therefore, I am planning on throwing my bouquet to the married/taken women! Then, we are going to have the woman’s date/husband come up and have her put the garter on him instead! My cousin did the latter at her own wedding and I remember it vividly as a kid.
Plus the thought of some of the more lush-like older women in my family fighting for the bouquet is a hilarious image to me!
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
As of now we aren’t doing any sort of tradition/symbolic thing during the ceremony. I’ve yet to find one that really fits us.
We will also probably leave out the bouquet toss/garter toss. We won’t have too many single friends by the time our wedding rolls around so it seems kind of silly.
Post # 10
We didn’t do any of the following:
- Unity Candle/Sand Ceremony
- Receiving Line
- Father/Daughter Dance
- Garter/Bouquet Toss
Post # 11
Well, we’re not having attendants, receiving line, bouquet or garter toss, no garter to begin with even! We’re weird and a special circumstance though.
Post # 12
Lots of traditional things we are not doing:
We are not doing the bouquet or garter toss. We are having a sheet cake (decorated to the nines in cream cheese icing with pearl luster dust, but it’s a sheet cake all the same-no tiers). We are not having dancing or a band-the only music will be a CD of very soft music in the background. We are not having favors-baskets of buttermints with “thanks for sharing our day” on the wrapper is it. We are not toasting with alcohol at the reception because it is in our church social hall. We are not doing photos with every possible combination of wedding party members-families, with and without each other, all of both families together, lots of candids, lots of photojournalistic shots, some outside pictures if we can get good light (and its not raining-this part of Georgia gets lots of rain and if a hurricane comes up the Gulf-we get the rain bands). They guys are not wearing tuxes. I am not wearing a veil. Rehearsal dinner is not futsy-incredible casseroles made from a local bakery with big green salad, good bread and either chocolate chess pie or key lime pie for dessert. Simple, easy, comfort food-perfect for fall. RD invites say on them dress is resort casual. We are also not having a bridesmaids luncheon-however, there will definitely being some eating going on since we are getting up at 5, getting the church at 7 am, and have to be ready for pictures by 9. I was thinking about getting the bakery who is doing our catering for our rehearsal dinner set us up with some little goodies and some steamy cups of coffee.
We are doing lots of other things that are a bit non-traditional:
First look for pictures-of FI first when he sees me, and then one of me seeing his reaction. FI is wearing a navy jacket and khaki pants-regular neckties that match the dress color of the bridesmaids. Unity candle-but a bit different. FIs parents are going to light it and then be seated. My parents and my twins are going to light my side, seat my mother and then join the rest of the bridal party for the processional-FI and I will light the middle later. I am wearing ballet slippers for my shoes.We are doing bubbles-with 37 children of our closest friends and family there, we wanted to so something fun. I guess that is pretty non-traditional too-all of our friends are married and most of them have kids-so kids are included! Right down to their party bags for the reception.
Post # 13
I plan on skipping the ring bearer, boutonnieres for the groomsmen, the bridal party dance, the big cake, receiving line, and my father will not give me away. Still debating on how the bouquet/garter toss will work. I have a lot of younger cousins, and at my sister’s wedding, one of my young cousins put the garter on one of sis’ college friends. They were both mortified and he ended up putting the garter around her ankle!
Post # 14
Oh yea! No receiving line either!
Post # 15
We are not having a receiving line or a unity candle either…
Post # 16
we’re not having the bouquet or garter toss, no flower girl or ring bearer, no receiving line… and no head table!