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Haha Theresa90405! I also kill the spiders in the relationship! (But he kills the 6-legged critters, while I squeal like a little girl).
Hmm... not really that I can think of. We usually split things like driving long distances 50-50 (neither one of us really wants to do it!). We both do household repairs, whoever discovered the broken thing usually just fixes it.
I like my steak medium rare too; where I grew up (farming/ranching community) you eat steak medium-rare and no steak sauce, it's like an unspoken rule! Well-done steak is a sin!
I'm not a super prissy girl because I grew up on a farm. I'm not a tomboy, but I also don't scream and run away from snakes or spiders. So maybe there are "man-like" things I do that I just don't even think of as such.
ADD: He mows that lawn and shovels the snow though! :) Fine by me!
he hates to admit it but i'm the primary bug killer in our relationship. i'm also a bigger fan of building things than he is. it's not that he can't do it....he just chooses not to most of the time. i used to always help my dad out with building things and i still love doing it.
well if you want to be traditional about it we don't conform very well to traditional gender roles. I make all the money, I have a science background. Mr vista is a musician and he is in school, so he does all the housework cleaning baking etc. I used to do all the cooking (since you can only eat so much toast/ spaghetti) but he is learning how to cook actual meals and now he does most of the cooking too.
He still kills the spiders and drives the car though!
@Theresa90405: ditto.
i am usually the "techie"... besides our tv stereo system... anything computer related is all me. even my in-laws know that, so when they have trouble with their computers -- they call me.
i drive most of the time, but that's just because my car's better on gas mileage and my car's a bit too small for DH to be comfy driving...
those are the only major man-ish things. but i will say that when it comes to me doing his duties (outdoor work) over him doing mine (ie. dishes/laundry) i've done more of his share than he has mine. >:P
I drink beer and watch sports. He does not. 'Nuff said.
I tell him that my love of beer and sports has been wasted on him!!
@Theresa90405: We totally fight about the bugs in our house. We will jump around each other trying to kill a bug and who has to flush it down the toilet. It's hilarious.
I have to add in something about the bug killing too! Mr.flipflops will totally touch and get rid of the bugs. I will not! It bugs that crap out of me (no pun!hehe) that he WONT kill the bugs! He will walk all the way out side to let the ugly, 20 million legged creature that just tried to kill me with a heart attack, go safely. Just kill the dang thing!!!
When I moved my flat screen tv, xbox, surround sound system, etc (yes, I had all the electronics) in to Mr. G's house, I had to connect everything...he had no idea how to even begin to put it all together. He still asks which remote does what (lol)
When we have date night and go to a restaurant, I will tell him what I want to eat and drink, and let him order for me, as he likes to do it. Gurandamnteed, everytime, the beer will be placed in front of him, and whatever umbrella, fruit garnished monstrosity he has ordered, is placed in front of me. Ewww *switch!*
My "masculine" behavior is a little off the chart... I mean, I look like a girl and mostly dress like a girl (albeit a lazy one) but if I start talking about when I'm the "manly" one I might never stop! I am a bigger sports fan, drive 100% of the time (no exageration necessary), put together most of the furniture, think of my career as a way to challenge myself and support us versus him wanting to change the world for the better. I'm sometimes afraid that I come off as emasculating because I am a massive tomboy and a very aggressive person. But of all the men I've met, he's one of the most secure in his masculinity. He's not really effeminite (which would be fine with me - as you can tell I am very anti-gender roles), he's strong physically and emotionally, but unafraid to like stuff that is thought of as typically feminine (we both love musical theater!).
I'm really very anti gender roles in the first place, though. The idea of defining myself as being female or defining him as being male really irks me. I'd like to think what's more important is what's between my ears not my legs (though while still having a sense of humor about both).
Not really. I guess we follow the traditional, old school gender roles. I cook and clean, arrange most of our social schedule, make appointments, pretty much keep him on schedule. I have a great memory for when things are due, etc.
He does yard work, car stuff, driving, etc.
Right now I make more money than he does, but eventually he will surpass my earnings.
I also kill all spiders :-) He's scared of them! Hahaha!
Yet another spider killer here! The ONLY time I ask him to kill them (and he will do so with attitude!) is when I don't have my glasses on and I don't want to 'lose' the bug and not be able to 'see' where it went! Lol!
I do a lot of the handy work as well though he does have a vested interest in it also. I help him a L-O-T with the yard work of digging and landscaping we are doing ourselves. (So it's me helping as opposed to his buddies!)
If something is wrong with my car, I will do a lot of research and present to him as to what I think the problem is and how I got to that conclusion, to make sure I got it 'right'. I don't just say "something's wrong with my car, fix it!" I baby my car a lot.
FI can sit through romantic comedies and that's good enough! He also used to (before his PC died) a huge collection of love songs, which I did not have. In fact I was a rocker for the longest time.
Ooh...I forgot to add that my husband cooks dinner every night of the week. He gets home at 4pm every day while I don't get home until 6:30. So much easier for him to have dinner started or almost finished by the time I get home. We switch on the weekends...I cook him dinner since he's been so wonderful to me all week long!
Yep I'd say I am more the "guy" in two primary respects:
1- I'm way handy-er than he is. I can use tools and fix things and build things (okay not THAT well... but better than he can).
2- I'm the "negotiator." Like when we bought a house or when we have trouble with a company or something, I'm the one on the phone yelling instead of him. Of course I'm a lawyer so it kinda comes with the territory :)
Oh man how bad is this going to sound!
I hate cleaning! FI hates my clutter and will clean up after me. He usually does the laundry and unloads the dishes.
I also would rather not cook (I love baking though) so FI cooks most of the time!
And (the most embarassing) I'm usually the one to roll over and go to sleep after...you know. haha
oh yes I should add that I'm the "negotiator" also! FI hates confrontation, and if someone needs to be talked to sternly, I'm the one to do it. We both hate asking for discounts, but if it comes down to it, I will be the one to do it!
I'm a much better negotiator than DH, so we always default to me doing the talking in those situations. DH has learned to keep quiet after a few incidents which I won't mention..
DH is also a lot nicer than I am in general, so I've learned to put a zipper over my mouth when I get fired up at someone and let him handle it. Like if a family member makes a snarky comment to us, I zip it up and let him respond to ensure we will all still be on speaking terms afterwards.
DH is cleaner than I am. There, I said it. He is ADHD and focuses all his energy on cleaning our apartment so you can imagine how spotless and neat it is all the time, even our hangers are evenly spaced out. I on the other hand like to leave my pajamas on the bed in the morning after I shower so they're right where I left them when I need them that night! Of course by the time I get out of the shower DH has already put them away.
I have to kill all the bugs that ever find their way into our apartment. DH will not go near a bug or spider or anything of the sort!
I'm much better at mechanical tasks than FI. I really hurt his manly pride once when he was trying to help our friend put mudguards on her bike. He spent so long fiddling aruond and still not figuring it out that I finally shoved him aside and had it done in a few minutes.
I ride a motorcycle, FI rides a scooter. Nuff said.
I like outdoors work.. So i do the gardening, the mowing of the lawn, whippersnippering.
He likes to cook....and I dont.
Im the negotiator and the techie....
but hes still he repairer of things... I cant be bothered :P
He spends money like most girls do...only without all the shopping. He wants this or that and spends money almost faster than we can bring it in and I am a pinch penny. He's had to slow down on the spending though because of bills and the wedding but as soon as the wedding is done I' sure he will be at it again.
I take care of the trash!!
But it is mostly because there's a fixed scheduled that comes with this task, so I can't skip it... Otherwise I tend to forget my chores. So to be fair I insisted that I do the trash so I do at least one thing consistently.
I'm the techie
the rare meat eater
the driver
and his skin is "too sensitive" for hot showers :)
I'd say my FH and I fall in line pretty much with traditional gender roles, and I am totally fine with that. :)
There is one exception though - he totally kicks my butt when it comes to cooking! I need to learn from him!
He cries like a little girl when he sees a spider. I've even been woken up to kill one before. I dont like bugs, but I would rather kill them and know they're dead. He also loves salad and I don't. I dont know if that makes me "manly" or not but I find it kind of funny when he's eating his salad and I'm eating a cheeseburger.
most certainly not the spider-killer. but i did teach him how to fix the toilet tank. it kept leaking water into the bowl! and that's a money waster!
I always drive and I make the majority of the "executive" decisions (example: where to live, cash management,etc) ;P
@miss ranunculus: My FI is the chef too! lol. I can barely make grilled cheese and frozen pizza and he grills and cooks all sorts of things.
I'm better at sports. I'm the cook, but he's the baker. I make the money, he pays the bills. He cleans a lot more/better than I do. Oh yeah, I'm a rare meat eater too. I even like raw meat and fish!
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Ok Fun thread! I have a question! Is there any aspect of your relationship where you might be more of the "guy"? For instance mine is:
I love to have steak medium/rare. I love a little blood! Mr.flipflops? No way! He HAS to have his completely done or he gets very squeemish!
I LOVE to grill! Well I love to cook but if we are grilling out that is totally my job! This does bother Mr.flipflops a little so sometimes I give in and let him do it.
Lastly, I drive everywhere. I love to drive plain and simple. He likes it but I just kinda "have" to do it.
Is there any areas where you might be a little more "guyish" then your guy? What about mice? Thats TOTALLY Mr.flipflops job! But I still know some woman who don't have a problem with them. What your unique situation???