Is there something in the air right now? (Lots of breakups)

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Creiddylad:  We are in our mid twenties as well but I only noticed the trend you’re talking about in my early twenties. Everyone I know seems to be in stable relationships (though you never know what goes on behind closed doors). I don’t blame your partner for being tired of hearing about it. I wish people would keep their drama to themselves 😛

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Hmm. Now that I think about it, there might be something in the air over here too. Roommate’s best friend just broke up with her boyfriend. But apparently their relationship wasn’t very stable. Plus she’s pretty young and immature.

My boyfriend’s friend Jessica confided in him last week that she and her boyfriend of 6 years are having issues. He doesn’t know if he wants to get married after all. 

Maybe most of the breakups are due to the holidays coming up? I don’t know lol. I’m just throwing out random theories here. 

 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Creiddylad:  …yeah, I remember this era in our group of friends…most of them went to shit when they were officially done with any higher education and got it over with and broke up…then all the broken up singles started this inter-dating thing with the other broken up singles and THAT was just crazy weird because it like…affirmed all the suspicions of unrequited attraction that was realized in the bathroom at Slattery’s pub one drunken St. Patty’s day admist green beer and men in plaid….which got back to the jilted singles…so they like…shagged in a Denny’s on Flag Day…it got a little punitive.

And here in the middle of all of it, Nona and Mr. 99….married, boring, and completely amused and horrified by the spectacle before us….

It bears mentioning that this phenomenon resurfaced with a whole new group of friends when they all started turning 30…having kids, only it was so much messier and sad that time….a midnight confession of one couple will go down in the history of the 99 House for all time, because it came to light on New Year’s Eve at our house…HOLY SHIT…that was nuts.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Creiddylad:  I think it’s a tricky age. Women start pressuring for marriage, men aren’t sure they want to get married, you are negotiating a career, and relationsips that aren’t strong with equal commitment from both partners often crack under the pressure.

I broke up with my first FI in my early twenties for similar reasons. I grew up fast, so I end up dealing with problems earlier. While my friends were partying (and some still are), I had a lot of “grown up” issues to deal with.

For some people, it’s too much.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Nona99:  I was going to say, it will likely happen again later in life with the slew of inevitable divorces. I’d rather break up before making things legal. Those folks should consider themselves lucky – they are one step closer to finding the person they are actually compatible with.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ve heard of 4 from my friends in the last month!  The ages span from mid 20s to 40s, so its all over the place!  Its actually been making me try harder in my own relationship, not sweat the small stuff cause I’d like to keep my fiance right where he is :).

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am 26, my FI is 35. The same kind of thing happened to his group of university friends several years ago. My FI thinks that plenty of couples who meet when they are both university students don’t have strong, stable relationships, because their lifestyle often centres around living with housemates, going out getting drunk with their friends, and not really having to deal with any “grown-up”, real life issues.

Subsequently, when they leave university and it’s time to get their careers started (or alternatively, start grad school and possibly relocating), to pay bills and taxes like adults, to seriously think about moving in together and building a life, to start thinking about marriage etc. the relationship falls apart because the couple finds that they are actually not compatible at all. Also, the early 20s is a time of personal development and changes, and when both people are of that age it’s easy to grow apart because you want different things.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just a different take on things. I notice that a lot of break ups happen during or shortly after wedding season. Weddings bring out all kinds of emotions in people and some of them might realize the relationship they’re in is not headed towards marriage/or they can’t imagine walking down the aisle with the person they’re with…so they tend to break up. I know a number of couples that have gone through this. Just my observation!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

My little group of Uni buddies went throught this as well. One girl broke up her with boyfriend of 4-5 years for a 30 year old Sonic Manager… Idk what she was smoking! Another good friend of mine had a really volatile break up and the ex went coo coo bananas, really abusive/stalker like behavior. Then of course, I joined in on the fun about 1 year later when I got involved with a total loser (had a record and constantly moved to avoid bills).

Thank goodness, we’re all in very stable relationships now! I think it was just the excitement and young adult, party mentality really. I mean we’re all still pretty young 22-25, but we all have careers or are about to graduate from Uni. Life is pretty calm. We all call each other old folks because we like to play board games and avoid the party scene as much as possible 🙂

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