- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I realize the subject of my post may offend some people. Please, don’t take offense!
To explain why we want cash so badly…. My FI and I have been dating for almost 8 years, and living together for all of it. As such, we have accumulated a LOT OF STUFF. We have everything we need (furniture, linens, even fine china and silver!), except a HOUSE to call our own! We’ve been renting for years, and we DREAM about having a real home one day.. We don’t need any more towels or china or curtains or wine glasses or any of those things people normally register for! We just want a HOUSE!
So we discovered the FHA bridal registry, and thought it was PERFECT! To sum it up, “The bride and groom visit their choice of FHA mortgage lender and set up what is essentially a custodial savings account for the dedicated purpose of funding their down payment. Then they provide the details to friends and family. In turn, the couple’s benefactors can deposit funds directly into the account, or can simply hand cash or checks to the couple for deposit into the account.”
But then is the problem of how to go about essentially requesting “cash”…. I understand that it can be against typical etiquette, or can be interpreted as “rude” or “offensive” by some (though, we’ve talked about the idea with all of our family members to test the waters, and EVERYONE so far loves the idea! Yay!).
But, we want to set up a smaller registry with just a few odds and ends to give people who may feel uncomfortable giving cash another option.
So, we’ve been racking our brains for months trying to figure out WHERE to set up a smaller registry, and WHAT to put on the list! And…. here’s our list of additional things to register for:
1. A vaccum
2. An espresso machine
That’ it! And both of those things are NOT cheap by any means. We’re stuck.
So, the solution we’ve been toying with….
Set up a registry at a place that accepts returns for CASH. I know, I know, it probably sounds kinda shitty that we will ask for gifts with the intention of returning them and getting cash back……. But, we want a home! We don’t have the need (or room!) for any more “Things” in our tiny apartment!
So, my question for you bees, is there a place to register that accepts returns for cash? I know most places will do store credit, but I heard once a long time ago that Bed Bath and Beyond did cash returns… Not sure if this is still true???
**** PLEASE NOTE. If you plan on replying to tell me that setting up an FHA bridal registry OR returning gifts for cash is unclassy, rude, offensive, etc etc…. please just don’t post at all. It suits us, our family is on board with the idea, and we have YET to find anyone on our guest list offended by the idea of us focusing on getting a house instead of accumulating more stuff. I understand other people may find it to be a less-than-tasteful idea, but fur our lives and our wedding and our guest list, it’s perfect. ****