Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015
This is a very non-scientific question as I don’t think there is an age per say for men when they truly start getting worried about having children. It really varies from man to man, but I thought it will be fun to get an idea of when the DH/SO of the bees here began feeling the ticking clock (feeling the desire to have children). When I say have babies, I mean actually acting for it, ttc. Feel free to add any comments. Thanks for your input.
Post # 3
DH always said he didn’t want to be an old dad, and that he wanted to start havin kids sooner rather than later (he’s 30). He didn’t expect for it to happen as soon as it did though!
Post # 4
DH is 36, and he has baby fever. All of a sudden after he turned 36 he is all about babies!
Post # 5
DH has wanted to have babies for a while now. He is going to be 30 now. But he wanted it since he was 27. Progressively getting ‘worse’. But we only just started TTC because I wasn’t ready and no luck yet.
Post # 6
DH is 29. I’m due in less than 3 weeks. He is FREAKING OUT. Hahahaha. He was ok with the baby thing but he definitely didn’t have any sort of baby fever.
Post # 7
DH and I agreed on one child when our son was born about 5 years ago. Lately, he’s been talking alot about another sort of out of the blue. Sounds like a ticking clock to me 😛 He’s almost 30.
Post # 8
DH wanted a baby before 30. He is 29 and I am 16 weeks pregnant so it looks like he will be getting his wish!
Post # 9
DH wants kids like, yesterday. Lol. And he’s only 27! He realllly wants to have our first kid before he is 30.
Post # 10
I have to laugh because I didn’t meet my dh until we were both in our later 20’s, but he told me he was ready to have kids as soon as he got married…..I was his second marriage and he was originally married when he was 23…I think he was ready to have kids before that even! He loves them….we have 3 now. We actually got pregnant before we got married (( oops)) and then had 2 more kids. He would probably have 5 if I let him!
Post # 11
My husband has seemed pumped on babies. He’s 24. Our friends just had a baby (our first close ones to). I think that made him excited! He isn’t actually ready to start trying yet though. If we were more stable in our careers/financially we would probably we ready. I’m thinking we will be 26 or so!
Post # 12
DH and I met when he was 26. He was very uneasy about the idea of having kids. We went through a rough patch as I was torn whether or not I could deal with him some day deciding he didn’t want kids and he was torn between committing to kids or not. By the time we were engaged and planning the wedding we started talking more about starting a family and once his 29th birthday hit, about a year before our wedding, he started saying he definitely wanted kids and wanted to have children sooner rather than later. We decided to start ttc the month of our wedding and got our BFP on his 30th birthday, 11 days before the wedding. Now I think he is more excited than I am about the baby. Of course we just found out she’s a girl which is exactly what he wanted. He talks to her all the time and he always smiles and me and asks “what have you done to me?” It’s so sweet.
Post # 13
@candy11: I could be wrong, but I always thought the “ticking time clock” thing was built into women because A) lots of us just want babies LOL and B) because we have a biological time clock where we can no longer have children
So if you’re asking when a guy starting wanting a baby, my answer would be when he finds the right woman- so I didn’t vote. That could be anywhere from 20-50 I can imagine. My FI never wanted a baby because he didn’t think he was ever going to get married. Then he met me, and now he wants a baby (he’s 34). But I’m not saying this just becuase that’s how my FI is- it just seems to be what I’ve noticed amongst friends, etc……
And also- while men tend to be able to have babies longer than woman, they do say that thier sperm contributes to birth defects as it ages!
Post # 14
It hasn’t yet! He’s 36 and still a little hesitant.
Post # 15
BF apparently got really marriage and kids centric after his first serious relationship ended. So like 24 for him? But he didn’t meet me until he was 28 and by the time we are ready he’ll probably be pushing mid-30s.
Post # 16
@loving_life: My DH is the same age and way! We know it’s not right for us at this time but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t talk about it!