Post # 1
I have so much else going on in my life and since we’re having a very small wedding so many of my responses to people’s questions about my wedding are “eh whatever”. It’s not that I’m not interested, I’m just not into telling guests what to wear and everything be lockstep matching. My mood is also due in part to having an all-in-one wedding package (literally a pick one from part A and two from part B).
When I went to AA today to pick out my BM’s dress (which was really more of a suggestion, if she wanted she could pick another, I just happened to pick one that she really liked) the saleslady was stunned that I wasn’t obsessing over these details. When I responded that what was most important to me was enjoying the day she about fell on the floor.
Is there such a thing as being too laid-back?
Post # 3
If you literally plan nothing until 10 days before your wedding and then don’t actually have a place for your ceremony, I would call that too laid back!
LLooking at the big picture instead of the details is just mellow. I was the same way!
Post # 4
I had the same reaction from most of my vendors and wedding related people.
I really didn’t care what happened. I just wanted people to be happy, comfortable and to have a good time.
Post # 5
I think you’re fine! I wasn’t too fussed for details either, I just wanted to have fun and marry DH!
I remember visiting the florist at my MIL’s request. (I didn’t want flowers, she did.) They were asking me all these questions and I said “I don’t really care about flowers.” They actually gasped.
Post # 6
@renwoman: Nah. It’s all good. Too many people stress out about the small things nowadays, who needs that!
Post # 7
I find it kind of sad that so many brides stress themselves ill when it comes to their wedding day. No wedding planning goes without stress, but I tried very hard to be a very laid back person. I got weird looks and remarks like that comment you got when people asked questions and I gave them that response. I got stressed, definitely. My sister and my husband’s aunt going into hospital the week of our wedding is absolutely something to stress about. At the end of the day, the outcome is the same. You become a wife, he becomes a husband. I figured as long as that happened, no other small matter was relevant.
Good on you for being so laid back and stress free. However, I advise you do something so you aren’t a week out and forgetting about something like catering!