Post # 1
We are under the 6 month mark so I know we are a bit late sending them out. We are also on a very tight budget so we personally handed them to our close family at the end of a casual event. We quietly set them on the table next to them and drew no attention towards ourselves. We have been planning for nearly 2 years so it isn’t a surprise or anything. We just thought it would be nice to give a heads up since it is graduation/wedding season.
Is what we did wrong? His sister supposedly had a lot to say about it. She isn’t coming anyway so I don’t see why she cares how we did it. Her daughter’s recital is that day so, and I quote “Oh well”. No one else was bothered by it to my knowledge.
Post # 3
I don’t think there is any official ettiquette like there is for invitations. We just sent postcards out. I don’t think they have to be anything formal or anything.
Post # 4
@Jennawesbren: “o Well!!!”
no big deal, it depends on your circle! your fsil…prob not in the circle
Post # 5
I think the only ettiquette is that if they get a STD, they also need an invitation. We’re not even doing Save-The-Date Cards, it’s not in our budget and they’re a relatively new thing. We’re just going to send the invites out earlier than we would have if we had sent Save-The-Date Cards.
Post # 6
Something that I haven’t seen posted yet is the misconception that STD’s are a required part of the invitation suite.
They are an extra, and in no way required.
The other main role is that they are an invitation, and anyone receiving an STD must receive a formal invite. No exceptions. If that person and you have a falling out, tough beans. So use them sparingly and only for those guests that you simply cannot imagine getting married without.
Post # 7
I think I would be more inclined to give Save the Dates to people other than my immediate family, who would probably already know about it. I would send them to extended family and friends who I really did want to save the date. Otherwise, you certainly aren’t breaking any etiquette rules!
Post # 8
Im sending them out to everyone. I LOVE the idea of them. Well and plus I want to give my guests who are out of town time to save,etc.
I think you hand delivering is fine. Especially if your close to the people.