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I think if you wanted to make it clear that you were wishing to honor your mother by choosing the date, then it would be fine. However, if I was a member of your family and I learned you had chosen that date (without telling me about the significance), I would find it strange.
I agree with melodicsighs. It is a nice way to honor your mother, would your father and siblings (if you have any) be ok with having it on her birthday? Maybe talk to them first to get a gauge of the situation.
I agree w/ Naangel55, I would ask immediate family their thoughts first, personally I think it will make for a beautiful & emotional wedding.
Hmm... this is difficult. I haven't lost a parent, so I can't really relate.
I think getting married on your mothers birthday is a nice way to honor her! If I were a family member & I saw you were getting married on her b-day (with or without explanation) I'd know you were doing it in her memory
My sis was the one who initially came up with the idea in a off hand way after I told her we were waiting until 2011 she told me "Oh, isn't mom's birthday on a saturday that year? That might be something to think about."
I think it would be a beautiful tribute - just be sure to tell everyone why you picked it! FI has lost both of his parents and we are planning to spend a bit of time at the cemetary around the wedding. (Early that day or the day before) It's what he wants to do and I want nothing more than to support that.
I think it's a sweet and wonderful idea. Especially if your family is on board with it.
If I had lost my mother before our wedding and I had the option to plan it on her birthday, I would have. I think it's a beautiful way to have her involved with the wedding posthumously.
Thanks ladies, all your comments have been very helpful!
I think it's a great way to honor her, but I do think that you should discuss it with your immediate family to make sure they're okay with it before you make any solid decisions.
I don't think it's a bad idea. I think most people will assume you are doing it to honor your mother, and I don't possibly see how anyone could find it disrespectful.
I think that is a really sweet & meaningful idea. I wouldn't think that anyone would be offended by it!
I think it'd be a nice tribute. My mother died when I was 22, and her birthday next year falls on a Saturday. We talked about getting married on that date but opted against it for two reasons:
1. My fiance's mother is also not alive, and I didn't think it fair that we honor my mother in this way and not his;
2. It was way cheaper to get married on the date we ultimately selected. And we feel both our moms would have appreciated that!
Good luck. I'm sorry for your loss.
I think it's a lovely idea. My mother actually suggested that we get married on my father's birthday (he's been gone for 12 years). If only it wasn't coming up way too soon for us to be ready, we'd have done it. I don't think it's at all disrespectful, but a wonderful way to add new happy memories to the day.
thats a beautiful idea! i dont see how anyone could take it as offensive, you're her DAUGHTER so of course it would be a way to share your day with her and honor her at the same time. congrats on the engagement, best wishes planning :o)
As long as you think the rest of your family will be okay with it, I think it would be totally fine. I would be a nice way to honor your mom and remember her on your wedding day.
I think it's an awesome idea. My twin sister got married on our Grandma's birthday. = )
I think if your immediate family is on board then it's a great idea! Personally I think it's a wonderful way to recognize her on your (and her) day.
I think it's really sweet. I always feel sad on my dad's b-day (he passed away too), but it's actually mr. fro yo's b-day too, so now I have something positive to associate with it, and it helps with the grieving.
It's an old Jewish tradition to do that-- replace the bad date with something good-- so if people object, blame it on us!
Didn't read the other posts. Just wanted to say I think it's fine. And what a great opportunity to have a little somethign said about your mom, a prayer or something. Have her mentioned in your program etc.
BTW, my husband lost his mom a while agao. I asked him if he'd a have problem with the scenario. He said no.
I also think it's a wonderful idea, and I like that you are sensitive to running your thoughts past your family before making a decision. It's a beautiful way to honor your mother and I hope they see it that way.
You could also include a special mention in your program as to how your mother inspired you to choose this date. Making sure everyone is aware is one way to keep her presence alive at your wedding.
Congratulations on your engagement!
I think it is a wonderful way to honor your mother, and I don't think it would be viewed as disrespectful at all. In fact, my father's birthday falls on a Saturday in 2011 and that is the day I plan to get married, too. I say go for it. However, if you do have concerns that some family members may be hurt by your choice, I do think it would be a good idea to discuss it with them so they understand where you are coming from.
I think it's a beautiful way to honor your mother, I'm sure she would love the idea!
I love this idea! One of my besties lost her mom in high school, and when I read your post, I had to check your location, because I immediately wondered if you could be her, because that's something she would want to do.
I think there's no better tribute you could find than remembering your mom on this important day, both now and in the future.
I think it's a sweet gesture to want to associate that date with a happy memory. I lost my father but couldn't imagine having a wedding on that date - because I've grown up associating that date with remembering him (I was 5 when he passed). If one of my siblings got married on the date, I wouldn't find it disrespectful, but I would think it was a little strange (from MY perspective on the date).
I'd talk to your siblings and your mother's siblings (and your father) about the date and see how they feel. If they are on board (as your sister is), then by all means - go for it!
i actually thought of doing this exact same thing (my father passed away about 10 years ago), and everyone i mentioned it to thought it was a wonderful way to honor his memory. obvs check with your family, bc everyone's family is different, but i didn't hear one negative thing about the idea when we were considering it. (we ultimately settled on a different date for logistical reasons)
That sounds like such a sweet gesture. If i knew, I don't think it would be disrespectful. I think maybe if you did it on the day she passed away, others might have trouble with it.
As long as you and your FI agree and your immediate family is on board...I say go for it.
You should do it! I lost my dad 3 years ago, and if we were doing a summer wedding, it's totally something I'd consider!
Thanks everyone for the wonderful support and comments! New dilema-when and how do i bring this up with my fam? Obviously with the holidays coming up I don't want to bring everyone down but at the same time, I want to get this planning officially started ie: checking out venues, getting e-pics done, looking at vendors, starting on a guest list, planning the logistical stuff. But I want to wait to do all this until after there's an official date set.
Is there a tactfull way to do this? Or do I just come right out and say "Hey, how do you feel about us getting married on mom's birthday?" The fam lives far away so short of doing it after the turkey and before the pie, not really sure when I would be able to bring it up. Ugh, I was hoping my wedding planning wouldn't be stressful and it hasn't even officially began.
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My FI and I are in the beginning stages of the planning-just got officially engaged on Saturday-and we're throwing around thoughts about a date. I had a thought that I'd like to get married on my mother's birthday, she passed away 3 years ago and I think it would be nice for me at least to have some positive association with the date. But do you think some family members might see this as disrespectful or something?
I'm calling on the hive to give me advice before I even broach the subject with anyone else, except FI we talked about it and he's on board with the idea.